Reading these forums I feel like people think about game difficulty in very weird way, or at least in a very different way then myself.

When I think a game is difficult is when the game presents me with a challenge I am unable to overcome and my progress is blocked until I practise and overcome that challenge. If I am able to always progress and overcome every challenge without practise, it is not difficult.

More or less every single bit of normal duty finder content in XIV is clearable by being a floor tank for the entire fight. This is content designed to be clearable with subpar play and no strategy. Even if you aren't contributing much, you still clear the content and can progress so its not hard. This is a multiplayer game so progressing by the help of othes is a totally valid use of the tools the game gives you to progress.

Most people do not care if you are struggling and dying a lot in duty finder content as long as you at least try. There is a difference between struggling and learning out of inhability, and clearly not contributing out of laziness, and I think most people can tell.