Maybe some other MMO would offer more of what you're looking after when it comes to gameplay.
FFXIV is extremely scripted when it comes to boss fights. A person don't really need to be that good as long as they can memorize the patters.

Personally I play FFXIV when I simply want to chill while playing an MMO, FFXIV is a great option for that.
I have other games and MMOs I play when I want to feel more engaged while playing.