I don't think the Emet comparison really holds water. If you look at it on a surface level sure you can seen parallels but that requires looking at the differing circumstances between sundered life and living memory.

When doing the side quests, even these people we interact with that don't want to go yet feel like lost souls, ghosts clinging to some unfinished business and peacefully passing on once we resolve it for them. I know they aren't actually ghosts but that's what they feel like in how they act and speak. Ghosts that just need a final act of kindness to move on.

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Even Otis, who swore to protect his country.
For Otis this is probably made much easier because his country still exists. Living Memory is not the nation and people of alexandria. It's just the uploaded memories of the dead. The people are still alive and well, and with their land fused onto the Source and with the potential to even leave the bubble if they want, and not being held to task for what happened with Sphene and Zarool Ja, all in all have it pretty good right now.