I never posted here but I couldn't stop myself seeing some of the points brought up.
I disagree a lot with OP I don't know if they'll read but I'll still provide criticism.
For info,I started playing in HW and I did a few savages during Stormblood but that's about it ? I don't have the energy to put in that kind of content.
Since you specifically mention Honey B. Let's talk about her.
Like any other boss in the game, she first shows how a mechanic work and then do a mix up of these. Non standard telegraphs used are still the same mechanics in the end, they just have a different coat of paint: dynamo, long aoe going under her etc. Mechanics overlaps are in previous normal content too, that's why they show you the mechanics first, so you know whats coming and what mixup you can expect. The mechanics resolving "too quickly" are telegraphed by watching the boss, you need to be spacially aware.
An example of this is Shinryu: his tail on the side of the arena and it slams down after a brief show of a zone on the floor. Eden Shiva also but even more tricky cause you have to read her cast bar to know if she's going to cleave her front or the back.
That kind of mechanic has been there for a while already. The only thing that they did is add a bit more variety which I do welcome.
Lastly, one thing I can agree about is the Honey B mechanic that requires you to run around a lot but not for the same reason as you. The hearts hitbox is shady and the aoes color being almost the same don't really help make out what could be a safe spot.
I do welcome all these changes. Fights lost their appeal to me way back in Endwalker cause of fatigue but also the structure of said fights always being the same: raid wide, dynamo, spread, big obvious aoe to dodge, tank buster, rince and repeat.
Also, I don't think you should blame content creators that are part of the community for people coming back at you. None of them said: "harass the OP". They gave their own opinions in a video format cause that's what they do. People being mean to you doesn't mean that you shouldn't reflect on what you said. The least you could do is acknowledge their criticism but still disagreeing with it.
Nonetheless, try the fight again and focus, it really isn't that complicated. Pressing one button and winning isn't engaging to most people, that's why they hate Crystal Tower.