Today tried deleting all the shader cache files, didnt help
installing an older version of the nvidia driver (the May 21st 555.85 since that would be the one right before the date that kept coming up on the error windows before the most recent patch), didnt help

weird thing, it was worse for a bit, hit play and it instantly crashed, tried again, it popped up abunch of the error windows and crashed and closed the windows all in the space a couple seconds, third time it crashed then blue screened my system with "driver irql not less or equal"
then after the forced reboot, it started the game but popped up an error window ever other second, started from when the screens turns white to then fade into the Dawntrail start menu, there were 6 error windows total, but they ones where most most were the nvgpu, but 2 were mostly ???+ some two digit number
then the third time after that it started and acted normally, I was standing in the DT starting city for about 5 min before porting to New Grinda then to Limsa
guessing im probly back to the random crash with no rhyme or reason phase again,
But Im hoping all the issues that seem to occur if I reinstall the driver (current or old) might get someone to realize whats happening and provide a solution. most my fc is finishing the msq and Im barely past the first dungeon cause of the inconsistent ability to run the game.