Thanks for all the discussion everyone! Yeah, I absolutely wouldn't want to get rid of all gendered pronouns, I have alts who fit the he/she just fine and I enjoy it a lot. It'd just be cool if we had a third option.

I'm a game dev myself (got laid off this year though lol) and so I'm pretty interested in how games get put together. FFXIV is pretty economical by necessity with how player character models are rigged and how armor morphs to them, so I wouldn't have asked over any of this if I felt like it was an unreasonable demand. Since most male characters shade the male midlander rig and most female characters share the female midlander rig, being able to at least swap your animations between the races that share the same armature would be really awesome. It'd leave you with more limited options for some (I think that F!Elezen and F!Hrothgar are on the same armature, apart from the other races?) but it'd be cool to have. Pound for pound for roleplaying options and customization, FFXIV is one of the best just because it lets you change how you wanna stand or sit and all that stuff.