I'd be fine with those things if they were optional toggles,

i'm a straight black dude in real life but my character has been a very avg white highlander lady for years because(they have the best emote set for one &) its fun to play as my polar opposite, she isnt noticed in game since shes not a bunny or catgirl, unlike in rl where im spotted as soon as i walk in the door, forget that tho, i like how shes referred to its her world anyway, it would feel odd if they alluva sudden started they/themming her.

but if the devs were able to toggle-ize stuff, i say go for it,