Seconding this. I can't give a unique response either, but not everything needs to be realistic. We're playing a video game not real life. Stylized is okay. Good even! It's okay that FF14 doesn't look like every single other uncanny valley "realistic" game out there. I like that it looks like anime. It's more immersive for me BECAUSE of the art style, because it at present doesn't make me think "it's trying too hard to be real and missing the mark."
But yes. I get it. My partner gets it. Y'all aren't alone.