Don't sweat it V4NGUARD, you've got to bare in mind the people you're dealing with on the official forums. These are same people who when the alpha build of 14 came out said, "Don't worry guys, it's just the alpha. the game will be better in beta!" Then when the beta came out there were like, "Don't worry guys, it's just the beta. The game will be totally different in one month when the retail build arrives!" Then when the game came out they were like, "Okay the game seems to suck but that's just because there is a HUGE content pack that's about to drop!" Then when that didn't happen every time a patch came out they proceed to tell everyone about how much more awesome the game is now.

Nobody knows if it's too late to get legacy status. You just need 90 days before the beta. Unless the people claiming the alpha is starting on this date (can you even have an alpha build of a finished game?) and the beta is starting on that date have Yoshi P on speed dial it's best to just ignore them. The real question is does legacy status even matter? It'll probably help you get into the beta but aside from that if you aren't enjoying FFXIV now, you probably won't enjoy it much more with a revamped combat system and improved graphics. The $10 bucks a month thing doesn't really matter since the game will probably be free to play a year after it launches like every other MMO that comes out. It's all ready done it once, lol.