The unavoidable and unpalatable truth is that the source material that the word came from [the 1955 novel by Nabokov] is explicitly problematic. That's the whole point of the novel [allegedly] It is not a catch-all term for youthful girls. There are examples of the word being used in other contexts, for example egl and lolita style fashion but then even on a shallow level the reasons for the aesthetics development is in direct response to and subverting the source material and how it's popularity and controversy influenced the way girls are viewed and treated at large. At the worst it results in shady people hiding behind plausible deniability and at best it's perhaps a display of poor taste.