enmity-

[Jinrya-Geki]

so in other words,its pretty much se forcing me to play how they want to me to play or not getting into groups ever again

and it doesnt matter how hard or easy it is to get to 42 when i keep fucking getting dc every day multiple times a day

True, they pretty much are forcing you to level other jobs. But if you give up stats such as Int and mind for -enmity. It's gonna hurt your damage.