Quote Originally Posted by LilimoLimomo View Post
As I said before, nobody can criticize you for not pressing two DPS buttons if you only have one DPS button.
Some people simply can't take criticism, be it grounded in reality, trite jabs or even clearly fictitious nonsense purely aimed at getting under the victim's skin. Even if we had no DPS capabilities whatsoever, there are people that will merrily hurl abuse at you for standing around badly and some people would still allow that to get to them. You can only wrap people up in cotton wool so much, there's a point where people have to do a bit of the leg work themselves and either apply a bit of logic to the flak coming their way or simply grow thick enough skin to ignore it. Different people will handle this stuff in all sorts of ways, some better, some far worse.

Fun story for this tangent:

I helped some randoms in PF carry a PLD through T5 in ARR late in the patch but when it was still current, the PLD was clearly struggling with the fight and as someone who had experienced something similar with a static tank playing on PS3, I offered some tips that we had used to make things easier. The BLM who was organising the carry neatly pointed out if I healed as well as I gave advice, we'd have killed Twin already. Rather than take offence or fire back, I took this as my cue to completely overheal everything, chad the healing as much as I could and step on the SCH's toes as much as possible.

An expansion and house fire later, once I started looking to raid again for Midas, I got recruited by the group that I did that T5 with, BLM, SCH and all. I'd proceed to raid with them from then onwards and we're all still a static to this day.

If there's one thing FFXI taught me well, it's that being able to extract something positive from negativity is a huge skill to have. Even if it's just finding humour in it, it makes a massive difference.