Underperfoming vs median vs overperforming?

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In normal stuff, I don't really care how people play to be honest. Like, naturally I have things I prefer (full pulling things, using cooldowns, using AoE etc...) but I understand that like... people are people, which means you might get someone who's never played too much of a MMO before, or games at all, and needs to take things slower to get the hang of them. You might get someone who's newer to XIV and doesn't really know how to accomplish good damage, or maybe has a flawed understanding of when to AoE/When not to (like, someone might think it's only valuable to start AoE when there's four things, versus 3, etc... 'cuz I'd figure most people don't really do the math on the abilities as it's not really... fun for most to do that before just experiencing things and the game doesn't really have feedback to showcase "Oh, on this amount of targets you did less damage, but when you tried the other idea you did better" it's something you won't really notice unless you're more in tune with things. Plus, sometimes, you never really know - the tank who's single pulling, struggling and making tons of errors? Could like, literally be a seven year old. If I notice that kind of struggling I usually, -very- politely offer some tips and see if they're interested in hearing them (and usually they are, and then thankful for the help).

I'll always have, again, pet peeves and preferences but like... I'm not gonna care to the point of being rude in chat or something, since that's just being an asshole. If I feel like someone might need some knowledge in order to have success in the instance, then I just, again, very politely offer - but I'm never genuinely mad, or genuinely frustrated. Hell, sometimes the worse... like, quality? I guess? Runs are more fun, pending on which instance and what's going on. And most people I ever offered some information for have been polite about it - either excited someone's willing to help them out, or just a decline and... yeah, I don't care to push it if someone declines. Can't say I'd understand why, but like, pushing it is just going to make a slow instance into a... miserable chat-shout-fest that people like to showcase from time to time.

I think I've only dealt with one person who was genuinely rude to my pointing something out to them? But that was in an extreme, and was due to them not actually knowing a safe spot (and thus, getting people killed) for a mechanic and I was just trying to explain that was the issue. But I mean, once it was clear they did not care, I just... y'know, left. No point in staying.

And, I mean, if you're in an instance you cannot stand or feel is too... slow or w/e, just leave instead if you don't have the energy to be polite or the care to explain something to someone having a difficult time grasping stuff. Better to leave so you're no longer having a bad time, maybe requeue for something better, than to cause the most worthless argument because abrasiveness kickstarts defensiveness.

In harder content, I do have higher expectations pending on goal of the Party Finder. But I kinda got the info this is specifically regarding normal-style content.

And, I mean, everyone sucked at anything they're good at now at some point. For how many times someone might roll their eyes as their group wipes because of someone messing something simple up, most of the time, you were also that person at some point.

+ when it comes to EX/Savage etc... there is a large degree of "Everyone starts somewhere" - but that'll also go into the PF description being the largest set for what expectations I have entering one. If it's fresh prog, or new players and progression etc... like, you really should go into that with the expectation of: We are wiping a lot. If a few wipes early on get to you, don't join those or re-assess your expectations for those groups specifically.