Create a shortcut to the character folder by name once you've figured out which is which.
Go into Details view
Then check the "Date created" column. Supposing you made multiple characters on the same day before deciding on a keeper, the last one on that day will be the one to keep and the rest can be deleted.
No, you're right, it is super annoying. While workarounds exist, they exist only for PC players as far as I know, and even then your average PC user isn't PC user enough to know how to do all of this without supervision. There really should be a simple one button solution in the game that lets you copy settings across characters, or even to designate one of your characters as the default on whom all new characters should be built.