I'm confused, so which situation is "soy" exactly?

1.
A: "you suck as a tank"
B: "no I don't, *vote kicks with friend*
A: *comes to forum to complain about someone being soy*

2.
A: "you suck as a tank"
B: "I'm sorry.." (doesn't fight back)
A: *comes to forum and makes this thread*

Because OP is implying the situation two is soy, but I'm seeing a lot of posts in the thread saying one is soy. So which is it? Is fighting back and calling someone toxic and kicking them soy? or is NOT fighting back and being passive (no testosterone according to OP) soy?