Is there too much soy in this game's community

[Kolaina]

I pity the son or daughter who is taught that "a spine" or "thicker skin" is the answer to verbal abuse. "Just ignore it, it will go away" is very poor advice.

If one truly believes in that nonsense about "thicker skin", a negative reaction to criticism should be brushed off as well. Yet, a negative reaction to what one might consider a valid point appears to wound the critic.

While it is true that "not every criticism is a personal attack", not every reaction to criticism is unwarranted. In the same manner one advises others to "grow a spine", perhaps they should be taking that advice to heart. Except that it is poor advice to begin with.

Not everything is verbal abuse. That’s a key part of this. Criticism is valid and can be used to grow. Just because it hurts your feelings or makes you uncomfortable doesn’t equate it to abuse.

People don’t like being made feel negative. But it’s how we handle it and what we do with it. Treat all criticism as abuse and let it consume you, then what you were criticized on will always be there. Instead learn from it. Grow from it. As per my earlier example; stop standing in the bad in duties and the team progresses easier. Or keep standing in the bad and blame the healer for your own shortcomings you aren’t mentally or emotionally equipped to deal with

[DPZ2]

Back in Heavensward and Stormblood you can insult people and mock them and they'll just insult and mock you back. Banter, friendly or unfriendly, was the norm.

Not my experience. At all. Insults and mockery are reportable offenses. That the OP did not experience a ban for such behavior probably speaks more against the players they associated with. I have observed that behaviors such as described above do tend to be the norm for First Person Shooters and MOBAs.

Not everything is verbal abuse ... Or keep standing in the bad and blaim the healer for your own shortcomings you aren’t mentally or emotionally equipped to deal with

A classic example of ignoring the fact that what one says is verbal abuse. At least we know exactly what the writer thinks about people who do not follow their advice.

[Nyxs]

Not everything is verbal abuse. That’s a key part of this. Criticism is valid and can be used to grow. Just because it hurts your feelings or makes you uncomfortable doesn’t equate it to abuse.

People don’t like being made feel negative. But it’s how we handle it and what we do with it. Treat all criticism as abuse and let it consume you, then what you were criticized on will always be there. Instead learn from it. Grow from it. As per my earlier example; stop standing in the bad in duties and the team progresses easier. Or keep standing in the bad and blame the healer for your own shortcomings you aren’t mentally or emotionally equipped to deal with

This one hundred percent. Well said. If people truly dont want to learn and grow you can’t do anything for them. People that stubborn need to seek help but probably won’t.

Sort of related, people around me smoke cigarettes. It has long term effects and its a costly addiction. I advise them they would feel and do much better if they quit but they wont. Obviously they dont like my advice and still do it.