Please, re-read my posts. I never once said your part was bs. Please clam down.
I pity the son or daughter who is taught that "a spine" or "thicker skin" is the answer to verbal abuse. "Just ignore it, it will go away" is very poor advice.But people need to grow a spine. Get thicker skin. Not every criticism is a personal attack or life ending. But the community, at least the vocal community is starting to swing their reactions in that direction. Simultaneously acting with a behaviour they claim they are fighting against
If one truly believes in that nonsense about "thicker skin", a negative reaction to criticism should be brushed off as well. Yet, a negative reaction to what one might consider a valid point appears to wound the critic.
While it is true that "not every criticism is a personal attack", not every reaction to criticism is unwarranted. In the same manner one advises others to "grow a spine", perhaps they should be taking that advice to heart. Except that it is poor advice to begin with.
Reread it. Found it for you.
And where did I say that's directed at you? It's actually directed at the TC, and the argument I was countering. The argument I was saying you shouldn't conflate with constructive criticism.
If you're only arguing about constructive criticism, then that doesn't apply to you.
Are you saying it does?
You've misunderstood and misrepresented me, several times now, and got offended every time.
You're right. You really do have to walk on eggshells around here.
Not everything is verbal abuse. That’s a key part of this. Criticism is valid and can be used to grow. Just because it hurts your feelings or makes you uncomfortable doesn’t equate it to abuse.I pity the son or daughter who is taught that "a spine" or "thicker skin" is the answer to verbal abuse. "Just ignore it, it will go away" is very poor advice.
If one truly believes in that nonsense about "thicker skin", a negative reaction to criticism should be brushed off as well. Yet, a negative reaction to what one might consider a valid point appears to wound the critic.
While it is true that "not every criticism is a personal attack", not every reaction to criticism is unwarranted. In the same manner one advises others to "grow a spine", perhaps they should be taking that advice to heart. Except that it is poor advice to begin with.
People don’t like being made feel negative. But it’s how we handle it and what we do with it. Treat all criticism as abuse and let it consume you, then what you were criticized on will always be there. Instead learn from it. Grow from it. As per my earlier example; stop standing in the bad in duties and the team progresses easier. Or keep standing in the bad and blame the healer for your own shortcomings you aren’t mentally or emotionally equipped to deal with
Last edited by Kolaina; 02-06-2023 at 02:19 AM.
I pulled the quote from your response to me. Swallow your prideAnd where did I say that's directed at you? It's actually directed at the TC, and the argument I was countering. The argument I was saying you shouldn't conflate with constructive criticism.
If you're only arguing about constructive criticism, then that doesn't apply to you.
Are you saying it does?
You've misunderstood and misrepresented me, several times now, and got offended every time.
You're right. You really do have to walk on eggshells around here.
Ladies and gentlemen, the true villain; Miscommunication.
Nah people are snowflakes if constructive criticism upsets them that much. Also weird you say people are policing performance and you are here trying to police how people talk. You,nor anyone can control what people say so no point in trying.Perhaps try not being offended at every little thing. Shrug it off and move on. Most people in life you will have limited interactions anyways.There's a world of difference between taking offence at someone trying to help you with constructive criticism, and taking offence at a blatantly racist joke.
The fact is, if people don't like what you're saying, they're allowed to disagree with you.
All of this "you can't say anything anymore" bullshit is actually a thinly veiled attempt to censor people who disagree with backwards views. It's telling 'the woke' to shut up and put up with bigotry.
Meanwhile players who get constructive criticism for their performance, and take it badly, are likely that way because they've become used to other players being aggressive and judgemental. As I said, these are actually entirely opposite issues. Players get defensive about their performance because of aggressive, highly competitive players who try to police everything.
They shouldn't get defensive about constructive criticism, but they shouldn't have to get defensive either.
Last edited by Nyxs; 02-06-2023 at 02:21 AM.
Not my experience. At all. Insults and mockery are reportable offenses. That the OP did not experience a ban for such behavior probably speaks more against the players they associated with. I have observed that behaviors such as described above do tend to be the norm for First Person Shooters and MOBAs.
A classic example of ignoring the fact that what one says is verbal abuse. At least we know exactly what the writer thinks about people who do not follow their advice.
It’s not about how they follow advice. It’s about their reaction to anything non positive. You demonstrated part of the problem. You misrepresented the comment.Not my experience. At all. Insults and mockery are reportable offenses. That the OP did not experience a ban for such behavior probably speaks more against the players they associated with. I have observed that behaviors such as described above do tend to be the norm for First Person Shooters and MOBAs.
A classic example of ignoring the fact that what one says is verbal abuse. At least we know exactly what the writer thinks about people who do not follow their advice.
If you melt down over criticism, you aren’t equipped to deal with it.
Had nothing to do with not following orders
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