What I mean to say is that the way you've been going on, is as if Venat did this to fulfill her own personal goals or that she's some schemer who plotted the destruction of her own race for nefarious means when there's nothing in the game itself that proves that. It's really difficult to discuss what's going on in the story when you seem to be going off of your own personal analysis of what you believe is going on in characters' heads or how you feel about the characters rather than anything presented in the game so we're on two completely different pages.
The facts are that the world had ended. Zodiark was summoned to save the survivors and to fortify the celestial aether, kill the beasts, and then later to reseed life with second sacrifice.
Then an undetermined amount of time later an amount of people "too numerous too ignore" opposed the Convocation's vision of bringing back the sacrifices and believed that humanity as it was can't survive another Final Days and that there had to be a paradigm shift in order for life to continue.
Again, the facts as presented don't say that she alone opposed the Convocation or that she lied to her supporters and they didn't know what was coming. The third encyclopedia says they knew that she planned to sunder the star. She could very well throw out the script and try something else to prevent the Final Days but the only path she knew that had a chance going forward was the one that involved the Sundering. Since the person who told her all of this came from the timeline where she chose to sunder, the other options to save all life in the universe were unknowns and to take one of them would be a gamble.
This is... certainly something and I'm not sure where to start with this one, but where in the story is it said that Emet-Selch is attempting to spare Elidbus suffering and that he "wishes he could be as ruthless as she is"? Where are you getting that Emet-Selch's act was a surrender to Hydaelyn and anything other than saving the WoL? Is this written somewhere in the script or is this your conjecture that you're presenting as fact?