I’m late to the thread but I so badly wanna comment anyway! The way I see the lore is as a pile of mouldable building blocks and a pre-built scaffold… but how we want to construct the building itself is largely up to us as individual players. The number of questions the devs have been asked that have extremely vague responses or straight up ‘we don’t know for sure, what do you think?’ kinda answers, really says to me that this is OUR story - us, the players. I don’t think plot holes or lore conflicts in this particular game are down to failure or lack of care from the writers… I think they’re results of they themselves having fun with the story they’re writing for us.
There’s things we see and things we don’t see. Things we are educated on and things we are not. The answer to almost everything is just ‘well, maybe?’ Like, if FF14 isn’t a clear depiction of Yin and Yang then I don’t know what is. We literally exist in a grey are, always in flux.

As long as a player isn’t toxic about their personal take on the story, it really really doesn’t matter what ‘lore’ we ignore - a huge lot of it is only implied, and even then, I believe it is similar to real world history insomuch as ‘facts’ are only facts until proven otherwise. For example, the lore books give us a teeny bit of insight on the clans for each race, but the language used implies that most of these races do indeed have other clans or variants etc. that just aren’t as prominent or known about in Eorzea itself. Therefore we can say that the lore here is vague and open to our own interpretation, whims and fancies. Ditto with the world around us, the history, the intentions and wills of characters, the relationships between our WoL and the other characters that we do and do not see… just because we are told something, does not mean that it is true.

Now my little rant is over, I don’t really ignore any of the lore. I just twist it, add to it, assume things about it etc. in a way that befits MY interpretation of the story.
The only thing I’d say that I struggle to adopt is the idea that it’s all just been one year - however I think this is simply the result of the story taking place in an MMO time bubble… not to mention the real life phenomenon of time sometimes feeling quicker or slower than it really is. Maybe for the WoL, who’s had crazy things going on back to back since the first primal was slain, maybe it feels like it’s only been a year. But personally, I like to think there’s around 4 or 5 years between ARR and EW.