Successful relationships in-game/IRL?

[RobynDaBank]

Well, I did meet someone here through the Marriage Hookup thread. There was an attempt to create something, it was okay, we had fun playing FFXIV and other games even, like me streaming FFIX or co-op Stardew Valley. But I guess I wanted... more talking? They got too engaged elsewhere. Maybe I was to blame. Not going to over-share but either way things fell apart. There was another relation I had with a person in WoW, and that lasted a year.

I think one thing I've found is that when you find someone in-game, there becomes almost an expectation that there'll be playing that same game together as well. It might not be true for everyone. Couple this with general issues people might face with LDRs, it makes for an ugly mix. I'll admit now with hindsight that I held that expectation and was quite upset when things didn't come to meet it.

I've met a person now through a common Discord server - and this time I wasn't actively looking for anything. I'm pretty happy where we stand now - we just occasionally play together a game here and there, he streams to me, I stream to him, we watch shows together and whatnot. I've learnt from my mistakes by trusting better, and of course grasping the simple concept of people sometimes being explosively busy.

It's for sure basic things to know from the start, but I've had a caged life.

[Leifei]

Well, I did meet someone here through the Marriage Hookup thread. There was an attempt to create something, it was okay, we had fun playing FFXIV and other games even, like me streaming FFIX or co-op Stardew Valley. But I guess I wanted... more talking? They got too engaged elsewhere. Maybe I was to blame. Not going to over-share but either way things fell apart. There was another relation I had with a person in WoW, and that lasted a year.

I think one thing I've found is that when you find someone in-game, there becomes almost an expectation that there'll be playing that same game together as well. It might not be true for everyone. Couple this with general issues people might face with LDRs, it makes for an ugly mix. I'll admit now with hindsight that I held that expectation and was quite upset when things didn't come to meet it.

I've met a person now through a common Discord server - and this time I wasn't actively looking for anything. I'm pretty happy where we stand now - we just occasionally play together a game here and there, he streams to me, I stream to him, we watch shows together and whatnot. I've learnt from my mistakes by trusting better, and of course grasping the simple concept of people sometimes being explosively busy.

It's for sure basic things to know from the start, but I've had a caged life.

Don't beat yourself up. You grew from the experience, which is great! *Sends good vibes*

[Leifei]

I met my current GF in-game.
We had been in the same FC, but at the beginning we were just normal friend's like we were with all the other people from the FC. Even had some IRL FC meeting during some convention's. We where not attracted to each other, simply because she was in a relationship at that time and I was looking offline for a partner.

Then the FC felt apart due to some drama and most of the people moved to other server.

I kept a bit in contact with that one girl because we both stayed on our server and had house's next to each other.
But we haven't done more then the occasional roulette together and some simple small talk.
We both became single within the timeframe of 0,5-1 year where we sometimes played together.
And at one point it went from playing once/twice a week to daily rouletts.
Being in VC together for hour's.
Confession of feelings towards eachother.
Planning a day and place for a IRL meet-up (we live 1-2 hour's drive apart)
We meet, liked eachother IRL.
Have been together for 2 year's now and move into the same place next year.

So yea, that is probably something that could have happen in any offline friend group, too.

Wholesome content. I love it.

[Kyssa]

Met my husband playing Diablo.. over 20 years ago.

We've played online games together and with the kids ever since.

[SassyAssassin]

It always depends on the person you meet. In online relationships, putting your cards on the table early on is the most important, same goes for boundaries. If the other person has a very different lifestyle/wishes from you, it will be harder to make it work. It all depends on compatibility and how much you will love each other in the end.

[ArcaviusGreyashe]

I've had relationships through this game and others for as long as I've been dating, and have had relationships offline too. Some were toxic IRL, some were toxic LDR. Some were good IRL, some were good LDR.

Things aren't right or wrong, you're gonna meet bad and good people both online and offline, you just have to dodge the bullets and hit your shot. Right now, after some years focusing on offline relationships, I've been in LDR with a girl for two years, and life is better than it was back then. Might go back to offline relationships if that one fails. I don't consider them different in any way, tbh.

[Lunalepsy]

Embrace positive cynicism. : 3

[Kewitt]

My hubby and I met playing ffxi, we had the same character model. A lot less choices back then. I did, \emote hugs her twin sister, <t>!

He lived in usa I lived in canada. We have been married irl 15 years and he moved to Canada.

[Tsumdere]

Not an intimate relationship, but my best friend and I met in FFXIV - it was back in Heavensward in Ishgard right in front of the marketboard. She said she liked my character and I said I liked hers and asked her how to get a glam (I was sprout).

It's been 7 years since then and I don't think we have missed a single day of talking to each other, even if it's just a hello in the morning. We send each other physical Christmas/Birthday gifts, order each other food, and spot money if the other is in a pinch. Just a few months ago, she flew cross-country to help me move houses. We're going to Fanfest together and have plans for France for Olympics.

All of this because we simply admired each other's glams in DMs! I've never had a friend as good as her.

[PirateRyanG]

I met one of my friends in WOW.

She lives about 5 minutes from me now, but when I first started speaking to her, I lived in the UK and she lived in Sweden.

While I didn't move to Sweden for her (I moved for somebody else), it is kinda awesome that I had that connection with at least one other person before I moved. I moved to a rather small part of the country too, so it is even weirder we ended up living so close.

Outside of that, I haven't met many people in game that I want to continue to talk with. One of my best friends plays Elder Scrolls Online, and playing Elder Scrolls Online made us much closer as friends. However, we didn't meet in-game (we met on a dating site) so I don't think it counts.

Nobody I have met in FFXIV yet seems to appeal to me. The game is rather cliquey, but finding somebody in a game can be difficult. You don't have a massive foundation to build from, at least at the start. You need to hope and pray that eventually somebody is going to jump beyond talking about the game.