Successful relationships in-game/IRL?

[Elissar]

I'd like to hear some stories about relationships in-game or in real life, originally, i was thinking about amorous relationship but feel free to share friendship too!



I must confess that i'm going through a bad phase and i lost completely my faith in humanity. My dreams aren't helping me at all....so, once again, i'd like to hear your stories.


Thank you.

[Espon]

I haven't had any successful online relationships, but I have a couple of friends that met in World of Warcraft. They're now happily married and have a young son.

[Renalt]

You would like this thread.

https://forum.square-enix.com/ffxiv/...-people-we-met

I can't say I would want to meet anyone online since there are a lot of things that can go badly with a long distance relationship. Too many times I've had women read too much into my friendship and all too often do things go sour when they want more than I'm willing to give. However I am not about to tell people they shouldn't try. There are plenty of people who have met from online games and are quite happy.

Chin up buddy. Keep positive in your outlook but try to balance your outlook with reality.

[Vencio]

Some things may happen by chance, some come to be promising or reveal sadly to be futile.

Whatever the occasion try not to chastise yourself deep further down due to some “unprecedented” result. It has work for some individuals & it’s possible (no reason for anyone to shun you otherwise).

Our modern era has made most individuals to feel isolated & resorted into other ways (ingame for instance) given how challenging certain social aspects can be & quite often intimidating.

Regardless don’t let it discourage you by any means & accept it has come to that avenue & re-composed yourself (while going through that rough ordeal).

It’s very subtle when attempting to engage relationship ingame & moreso with distancing. Then again irl in some ways isn’t much different either & there’s no taboo in neither except your genuine persona & vice versa for that “other” significant likewise.

Aside from the relationship concepts it is far easier & more joyful to maintaining friendship ingame on the other hand! Given its within common ground for a list of activities to do together, display affection through our avatar’s & even simply just hanging on certain areas or Discord.

All in all try to apply it that equally for irl.

Life is a great abundance to be experienced in ways unbestknown to us apart from the game.

Try to balance both or more gracefully said, seek more out there through our reality than just Eorzea’s.

[NekoMataMata]

Humanity is evil. Never doubt this for a second.

Any time I've attempted anything serious with anyone online though it's ended really, really badly. Granted my single long term relationship of slightly over a year in real life also ended really, really bad too.

You probably shouldn't look too deeply into my opinion though.

[FrogDog]

Sorry you're going through what you're going through.

I find it really hard to connect with people online and I honestly just give up trying at this point. Whenever I get on this game and go to a social area I feel like I'm in an extremely alien environment. I'm on the RP data center though, so Ul'dah chat is often foot-related. Besides that, most everyone seems to want RP, erotic or otherwise, as the precondition for interacting. I don't do harder PvE content, so that basically leaves daily roulettes to meet people and that's not likely to happen.

That said, random encounters happen and I've met people through really unlikely events. Going on like 5 years now and I can say that right now I have two really solid friendships, and then one that has kind of cooled off, and another that's very rocky right now but was pretty much the most important connection in my life for a time. You just have to keep up hope that you'll meet good people. It's what I'm doing.

[Renalt]

Humanity is evil. Never doubt this for a second.

Any time I've attempted anything serious with anyone online though it's ended really, really badly. Granted my single long term relationship of slightly over a year in real life also ended really, really bad too.

You probably shouldn't look too deeply into my opinion though.

I'm sorry you have had a rough time. Take this time to kinda work on yourself. I think a relationship works best when you love yourself and where you are at and then they ADD to that joy. They should never be the one and only reason you feel like life is good.

I've only really dated 2 people and that 2nd one I wouldn't really count cause I was just feeling kinda broken after the end of the first one. Once I took some time to really think about why it ended I saw that I was a major reason why it failed. I needed to grow up. It was so easy to blame her but I was the issue. We were together for 6 years and that's a long time for someone in their teens to their 20s. People change a lot during that time...and I did change a lot and not for the better. She saw that and as much as it hurt her to do so she had to let me go.

Since that time I've matured greatly. I love who I am and life is really good. I think taking some time away from trying to be in a relationship and just self improve would do wonders for your outlook on people and relationships. Once you are the best version of yourself you'll find you'll attract people without even trying because people can just sense stability and maturity with how people just react to things.

[Teeko]

I met my partner through world of warcraft and I hated his guts at first.

We are happily together for 14 years now lmao

[NekoMataMata]

I'm sorry you have had a rough time. Take this time to kinda work on yourself. I think a relationship works best when you love yourself and where you are at and then they ADD to that joy. They should never be the one and only reason you feel like life is good.

I've only really dated 2 people and that 2nd one I wouldn't really count cause I was just feeling kinda broken after the end of the first one. Once I took some time to really think about why it ended I saw that I was a major reason why it failed. I needed to grow up. It was so easy to blame her but I was the issue. We were together for 6 years and that's a long time for someone in their teens to their 20s. People change a lot during that time...and I did change a lot and not for the better. She saw that and as much as it hurt her to do so she had to let me go.

Since that time I've matured greatly. I love who I am and life is really good. I think taking some time away from trying to be in a relationship and just self improve would do wonders for your outlook on people and relationships. Once you are the best version of yourself you'll find you'll attract people without even trying because people can just sense stability and maturity with how people just react to things.

I'm not going to disregard this because I'm absolutely not perfect but... the guy irl was slightly over 10 years older than me and he ended up being a massive, massive asshole. My mistake for dating him, but not my mistake for what he did.

And many of the guys online(including the one I did meet irl) were... kind of awful in the long run. I swear I'm not trying to point fingers and play the blame game here but when someone has a complete melt down and throws a tantrum which ends up in them threatening you(all over not answering them for an hour while you're in class and you've been with them for a few weeks so they know your schedule), then I'm going to say it's safe to say that it wasn't exactly my problem.

But I'm not the expert here. I'll let you decide c:

[Teeko]

I'm not going to disregard this because I'm absolutely not perfect but... the guy irl was slightly over 10 years older than me and he ended up being a massive, massive asshole. My mistake for dating him, but not my mistake for what he did.

And many of the guys online(including the one I did meet irl) were... kind of awful in the long run. I swear I'm not trying to point fingers and play the blame game here but when someone has a complete melt down and throws a tantrum which ends up in them threatening you(all over not answering them for an hour while you're in class and you've been with them for a few weeks so they know your schedule), then I'm going to say it's safe to say that it wasn't exactly my problem.

But I'm not the expert here. I'll let you decide c:

No, their advice was very good and I think most people could learn from it.

Relationships fallouts aren't always your "fault" but are always an opportunity to learn and grow from.

Also your outlook on humanity isn't from a very healthy place - once you learn to love yourself you'll attract people who will change your outlook!