Party overstepping my personal boundaries in duties

[Liam_Harper]

its respectless not to let a healer administrer their own health and debuffs ... its like saying.."you cant heal yourself..you cant push the esuna button"

It's really not. I'm sure it feels that way to you, but it's not meant that way.

Healers in casual content very often just blind heal until the entire party has full health. It's safe. They aren't really good at their class and blind healing allows them to compensate for it. They're hardly aware of you as a co-healer, much less evaluating your skill level and administering heals because they think you aren't capable. They just see missing health on the party list and heal it regardless of any other factor.
Sages will also administer single target heals to restore their own MP, not to heal.

As you said you have a form of autism. Consider the fact that makes you perceive things differently to others. Even though it feels like single target heals are invading your boundaries and disrespectful, the reason no one else seems to realize this is because it doesn't feel that way to them and it isn't meant that way.

Your only real option is to understand this and learn to be able to accept it. Others just think differently, there's no intentional disrespect, it's fine. Then you can enjoy duties more. Trying to change the entire healing community just isn't realistic unfortunately. Hope things work out for you.

[BRVV]

The only somewhat safe way to keep random healers from PF away from your HP bar would be to ask them that you solo-heal. Even then the fairy might heal you though.

[Saraide]

To OP: this is a team game. Not 4/8/24 people invidually soloing a dungeon together. There is a lot of trigger happy overhealing in random duties, a lot of people want to see HP bars full, often times out of insecurity about being blamed if someone does manage to die. I dont think it's a wild guess to say that a lot of people doing normal mode content are frequently not aware what attack a boss will do next and how soon. So they just full heal on the spot. Is it optimal? No. Could it be worse? Definitely. Does that mean healing you is a personal attack? Absolutely not.

The only somewhat safe way to keep random healers from PF away from your HP bar would be to ask them that you solo-heal. Even then the fairy might heal you though.

With how many free heals there are around this is very likely to happen. If I'm on white mage I want to use lilies. If I'm on sage I have to use heals to get mana.

[BRVV]

Party before this thread gets deleted #party

[bubblesbutternut]

i saw one guy tell the healer stop fucking healing dps im a warrior i can heal myself then he dies then flames the healer for not healing him

[BRVV]

i saw one guy tell the healer stop fucking healing dps im a warrior i can heal myself then he dies then flames the healer for not healing him

Would've laughed my ass off

[bubblesbutternut]

Would've laughed my ass off

on one hand you can laugh but then the rest of that run just turns to shit another perfect example of it doesnt take a dps checker to be a dick you will still be one at the end of the day

[MilkieTea]

i saw one guy tell the healer stop [redacted] healing dps im a warrior i can heal myself then he dies then flames the healer for not healing him

I hate when healers heal me on WAR lmao. They'll complain I'm not using cooldown's when in reality, I'm monitoring my HP to pop holmgang, letting myself get to 1, and then gearing up to pop Bloodwhetting. After I do that, if the mobs aren't dead yet, then I'll pop other CDs

Then again I'm a competent WAR who actually uses my funnie haha buttons.

[BRVV]

So a run with that tank skill wasn't shit before? What do you mean with "turns to shit"?

[bubblesbutternut]

I hate when healers heal me on WAR lmao. They'll complain I'm not using cooldown's when in reality, I'm monitoring my HP to pop holmgang, letting myself get to 1, and then gearing up to pop Bloodwhetting. After I do that, if the mobs aren't dead yet, then I'll pop other CDs

Then again I'm a competent WAR who actually uses my funnie haha buttons.

not gonna lie the aoe heal is amazing and the self heal is amazing on warrior but i have also ran into many tanks that dont use a defence skill and cant keep agro and still flame the healer like i said before rude players will be rude players at the end of the day a dps or hps checker wont change that lol