The people we met

[Krokov]

To Add on to what I posted earlier, I met this one player back in 2020 while I was playing GTA Online. I had just started playing and didn't really know the ropes of it much or anything and was just doing what I could it was then that I had met I believe through one of the heist or other instance activities, a player that you could say took me under his wing.

He pretty much taught me a lot of the stuff and we did a lot of activities together and with others and basically form a nice group of friends all through 2020 and 2021 just doing heists other things and such he was probably one of the best friends I've had in a while for online gaming. Sadly though he do too real life circumstances as at the moment he just quit gaming in general and is almost never online. However I still keep the crew alive that he had formed and just do my thing on GTA Online ever so often. Just amazing how you can just meet a random person becoming just good friends with them almost overnight.

[SassyAssassin]

lowkey funny tbh.

morale of the story - dont simp

Yeah I cant have much sympathy either xD if it was some regular dude in pictures, its very unlikely anyone would have sent him any money no matter how many pictures of his dead mom he would post.

I had a friend that used to do similar stuff, thankfully not this elaborate or with real life money but he used to pretend he was a girl in games and so many guys would give him stuff I was baffled that’s all it took xD

[SweetestLily]

Yeah I cant have much sympathy either xD if it was some regular dude in pictures, its very unlikely anyone would have sent him any money no matter how many pictures of his dead mom he would post.

I had a friend that used to do similar stuff, thankfully not this elaborate or with real life money but he used to pretend he was a girl in games and so many guys would give him stuff I was baffled that’s all it took xD

This 100%, I tried to warn one or two ppl, they didnt listen, then I stopped caring and just stood back and observed. I learned, you can't help simps or stupid. They make themselves too easy too scam, shrug.

[Leifei]

Yeah I cant have much sympathy either xD if it was some regular dude in pictures, its very unlikely anyone would have sent him any money no matter how many pictures of his dead mom he would post.

I had a friend that used to do similar stuff, thankfully not this elaborate or with real life money but he used to pretend he was a girl in games and so many guys would give him stuff I was baffled that’s all it took xD

Heh, my brother used to trick guys in game like this. He just played a girl character, acted a little girly, and some guy was paying his subscription. XD

[Renalt]

Heh, my brother used to trick guys in game like this. He just played a girl character, acted a little girly, and some guy was paying his subscription. XD

Free armor trimming if you'll be my GF!

I remember hearing that a lot back in my Runescape days.

[Travel]

Had a couple of people I've met over the past few days grinding out levels, particularly in Heaven-On-High; rather pleasant, all things considered.

First one was a Lala that seemed utterly impossible to make sad; every single moment in Heaven-On-High with her had her cheering and showing joy with us, all the while doing a surprising amount of work with Machinist of all jobs. By luck or fate, we met a second time several hours later, still running the same jobs and outfits; it was a friendly little reunion that we sadly didn't get to replicate again, though I will say it was nice while it lasted! Happiest little mob boss I ever met... *sniff*

The second was a Roe that had a frankly unfitting name; "Blood-Crazed Berserker" or something similar. He was dressed in a remarkably fine and fashionable cowboy glamour, complete with ten-gallon hat and duster, and was a Dancer... and looking rather fine while doing it, if I do say so myself. It was weirdly entertaining, seeing this gigantic ballerina cowboy rip and tear through a variety of yokai and such while making a rather alarmingly accurate Axel impression with his chakrams, and I was fortunate to be able to run multiple runs through HOH with him, as well; sadly, like the Lala above, we had to go our separate ways, but it was still nice.

The third player I really remember standing out was this... dark and fiery edgelord, that had a full black set of spiky armor, along with a nice red cape, flaming horns on her helmet, and a shield that looked like a glowing ring of fire. Throughout most of the Shisui of the Violet Tides run, she didn't say a single thing; other than going through the enemy encounters with a terrifying amount of efficiency, there was no emoting... until we got to the final boss fight. At which point, the dark and fiery Paladin stopped, gave each of us - her three teammates - hugs, expressed her thanks for fighting with her, and then kickstarted the encounter. Naturally, the fight went off without a hitch, and we all said our goodbyes and went our separate ways... though it didn't stop me from meeting her again in Idyllshire a few hours later, while I was running some RDM quests. We didn't say anything to each other, and I doubt she recognized me regardless, but it still made me smile just a bit.

[DiaDeem]

Best Forum thread ever. I may come back with more stories later!

[SassyAssassin]

My friend list have been empty since a year ago.

Mine too actually, I realised I don’t like the pressure of doing something with other people on a daily or weekly basis so now I tend to just join instances, dungeons, talk with the people there and go our separate ways.

[Carin-Eri]

Mine too actually, I realised I don’t like the pressure of doing something with other people on a daily or weekly basis so now I tend to just join instances, dungeons, talk with the people there and go our separate ways.

Same.

As much as I love the game, my experience of the social side of it hasn't been positive. I mean, I've certainly met people who either sent friend requests, or accepted one from me, and seemed really friendly during that initial contact - but then I never hear from them again and they 'blank' me if I happen to be in the same place as them.
My friend list is, aside from two friends from the MMO I used to play, pretty much empty.

Also had a bad experience with FCs. First one I joined was okay, but I moved Datacentre (was on NA but since live in the UK wanted to move to the EU DC) but the one I joined when moved homeworld seemed to have a fairly heavy RP emphasis (probably leaning a lot toward ERP), which wasn't really what I was looking for. And the second one I was kicked out of the other day, due to a situation where one of the FC members basically Catfished me (not financially I'll add), told the FC leader that I harassed her and reported me. So waiting to see whether I'll receive a ban at this point, since I was told that they were going to report me.

So yeah, assuming I don't get banned anyway, I don't really want anything to do with the social element of the game anymore. I was never particularly comfortable with the social side of things in the first place - it isn't something I've ever found easy in any setting - and the experiences I described really have put the nail in the coffin because I've been made to feel disposable, gullible and stupid.

[indigo_imp]

So yeah, assuming I don't get banned anyway, I don't really want anything to do with the social element of the game anymore. I was never particularly comfortable with the social side of things in the first place - it isn't something I've ever found easy in any setting - and the experiences I described really have put the nail in the coffin because I've been made to feel disposable, gullible and stupid.

I just wanted to say, I'm sorry to hear that happened to you. I personally think reaching out is quite difficult, as I have to deal with social anxiety popping up quite a bit. So it's awful that you ended up in a situation like that. I lurk here mostly but your posts are very thoughtful. I hope you get the will to try again in the future. If you'd like someone to chat to just ping me in-game.

I've had a similar experience regarding making mostly acquaintances. I had met a couple of people while going through the MSQ that really pushed me further. The first one was when I was just a starting arcanist. I've always had a bit of trouble getting past the first phase of MMOs, where it feels like there isn't as much you can do. That person and I were both attacking a goobbue together, then one of us reached out and we went through the rest of the quests. They definitely helped me get more engaged. The second person and I met at the end of ARR and eventually ended Heavensward together. Unfortunately though after that our schedules didn't match up as well. Still, it was nice to go on that journey together. It would be nice if there was a way to do more of the MSQ together with someone.

Recently I've made about three friends, though it didn't come easy, and who knows if that'll continue. I've noticed that most people tend not to reach out to me, it feels like I have to initiate conversations typically. Otherwise they'd just be another person on the friends list, that I might not remember in a few weeks. I'm not sure why that is. It can be discouraging sometimes to feel like I'm the one who has to put the effort in. I guess it might be that they want to escape the social pressure, or maybe it's just awkward to try and start up a conversation after the first meeting and most people won't try to. It feels like the step from that to a more substantial friendship isn't an easy thing, I haven't figured it out yet. It does sometimes work out though, at least from my recent experience. I feel it requires a lot of effort, and building up courage/resistance to handle rejections, at least for me.