I dont think its any worse than any other server out there personally. see these threads occasionally, and I get it, some people have a horrible experience. but I have to wonder how that is. never run into anything like this, never been told to kill myself, been yelled at or abused. have to admit I generally avoid Limsa, but, when I first started I played on a potato computer and it didnt handle crowds well, just kept that habit going.
sorry to hear the OP has had over a decade of horrible experiences in game... hope the next one is better for you.