I don't like FFXIV's community

[Rilifane]

I play since Shb (3 years ? 4 ? Bloody senility) and had maybe a dozen of those little incidents. Most of the times when it goes wrong everybody just stay silent. Which can be damn stressful when you're a newbie and you just KNOW you f*cked up.

Maybe I'm the virtual equivalent of a capybara.

Edit : is it a new trend to yell on FF community ? 'Cause in the French community, a lot of people complain about it, but they all seem to enjoy being a special snowflake more than anything else.

(I'll slap a cheese on the head of the first person who tells me that it's normal for the French community to complain).

That's something I don't get either.
I keep seeing people say something about people yelling/ screeching/ screaming at them in dungeons and I'm like... what? Where? And what do they even classify as that?
When someone uses yelling/ screeching/ screaming, I think of something like tank died and writes "HEALER ???? -.- are u blind??" or a dps ate several aoes and healer goes "OMG stop standing in shit are u dumb??". And those things would get you a one-way ticket to GM jail or even banned.

I think I've seen this behaviour only once and the person got reported, they got really abrasive, capslock warrior, insulted etc., maybe more but that's really the only one I can remember.
The rest was more passive-aggressivenes under the guise of being nice like "you have mitigation in case you didn't know, I'll even give you time to look for those buttons now : )))" but even that is fairly rare. Mostly people just stay quiet or if someone write "sry my bad" they just get a few "np/ no worries/ happens" and that's it. I wouldn't classify things like "you can go faster than at snail's pace, u know?" as yelling and why dramatize and inflate things for more attention if it results in the opposite and just makes people suspicious?

[Jin-]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PQB7qJ8tLXM

[Kes13a]

*checks OP's server*

If Crystal DC is that bad, then no wonder nobody goes to it.

I dont think its any worse than any other server out there personally. see these threads occasionally, and I get it, some people have a horrible experience. but I have to wonder how that is. never run into anything like this, never been told to kill myself, been yelled at or abused. have to admit I generally avoid Limsa, but, when I first started I played on a potato computer and it didnt handle crowds well, just kept that habit going.

sorry to hear the OP has had over a decade of horrible experiences in game... hope the next one is better for you.

[IkaraGreydancer]

Being fair, the experience is ofc gonna vary depending on many factors. I've seen a few of these happen over the years buy I'd never say it's constant. I just wonder about things like your choice or circle, how things are conducted with others n so one n so forth.
May try new servers? Or some DC travel to meet new folks

[Crimen]

Really sorry you've had such a bad experience, OP. I've been playing since 1.0 and I've had a handful of these encounters. On the bright side, I've had many more neutral/good encounters than terrible ones, but I can understand how crappy it feels. It's important to acknowledge that these types of people exist and that we all have different experiences running content. I think it's biased to say whether the community is purely good or terrible since we can only speak from personal experience, though. I'm just sorry that you have had more negative than positive encounters. I can understand how that would push you to stop playing the game.

Whether you come back later or not, I hope you end up finding a community where overall you get treated neutrally / better.

[Lunalepsy]

1. From the very start of 2.0 I've had people tell me to kill myself or that I should quit. One instance i remember is doing Amdapor Keep for the first time and we all wiped on the last boss cause the Tank rushed in and no one knew the mechanics. Told me directly I should quit and how horrible I was when I asked if we could try again. This was very common behavior in this time period.

2. Poor GMing. You'll have some people catching bans but them you take a look at Balmung shout chat and see people talking about animal genitalia, their mods that give their characters animal genetalia, you can see people in the shout chat talking about other fetishes nonstop all day and people who have done it for years which I won't name but just spend a few seconds there and you'll see some disgusting dialogue being spammed. Even in say chat.

3. People promoting their Discords 24/7 in party finders, shout chats. These same discords dictating content like Eureka nonstop. Making it hard to even get anything done since a Discord decides it wants to control BA and you're not allowed. You have people insta pulling everything so people miss out cause no one cares.

4. Hunts all the years of them getting instapulled and people missing out.

5. From Coils, to Alexander, to Omega, there and so on. Extremes as well and Savages. You'll find more and more unsavory people cursing at each other and they don't get banned. Telling people to quit the game.

6. You got people screaming at novices cause they don't know every mechanic before a fight in a basic 4 man leveling dungeon cause they are so tired of farming tomes they take it out on others.

I'm sorry but this community is not good in any sense of the word nor has it ever been no matter what anyone says.

And with that, I am done with this game. Been here since 1.0 but I'm ready to move on to something else like offline games.

Indeed, but watch out for the incoming defenders! Best of luck! <3

[Drakengarde]

I have only come across two slightly toxic tanks but that is about it. Sure every game has toxicity but in general FF is pretty chill and the GM will come down hard on harassment. Heck I came from one of the most toxic games back in its prime and that is COD and the lvl of toxicity I experienced there is something else lol. FF toxicity is childs play imo two totally different leagues, players tend to be passive aggressive at times but that is about it because if any toxicity goes on in the game and the GM can easily investigate it and guess what they hit those offenders with a ban hammer so fast it would make there head spin.

[ICountFrom0]

I've said it before, I'll say it again.

Report and move on.

You won't make this better by fighting with a jerk. You'll just make things worse for everybody else around you, and make the jerk think they are justified (because human brains are strange, that's why).

Just, file a report. If they are over the line, they go away. Then they come back even angrier and promptly get ban 2, and repeat for 3, and gone forever.

Getting away with it is what lets trolls get worse over time. Folks who want reactions, you deny them that by not giving in and fighting then. Report, and move on with your life.

[hagare]

Okay,
bye
have fun
I should finish my other games too

[dapperfaffer]

*checks OP's server*

If Crystal DC is that bad, then no wonder nobody goes to it.

crystal dc is where all the erpers and snowflakes go. it is literally the festering hole of the NA servers.