DPS queues have not bothered me in the ~9 years I've been in Eorzea. Don't just "sit" in the DPS queue. Craft, gather, seek daily hunt marks, FATEs, etc etc. I can't say I'm ever "sitting" in a DPS queue unless I choose to. Which probably means I've turned the volume way up and I'm cleaning the house while waiting for the queue. If you are staring at the screen for 15-20 minutes waiting for the queue to pop, you are doing it wrong.