Are shards different?

[Lurina]

I mean, you should answer this one in a more figurative and allegorical sense above all; the Ancients are clearly intended to be godlike figures, so they have godlike physical qualities that disappeared once the Sundering happened and they weren't gods anymore. Similarly, we're not gods among inferior beings in Shadowbringers because that's just not the story they were telling. So any explanation kinda has to work backwards from those points; the story must work first and foremost, so whatever explanation we come up with must therefore allow both of those stories to still work first and foremost.

So with that, I think the best explanation I've got is that the Ancients were just literally a different species entirely, living in a completely different environment. Remember that their model is unlike any in the present world; they've got the 'hyur head, elezen frame' that the Garleans have, but without the third eye. (Also, they're enormous, there's that too.) Also keep in mind that even in the present world, lifespans range pretty hard; it's pretty well-known that elezen lifespan is 120 years and viera are in the 200 range, but as I recall miqo'te are the low end of the range at about 60. So there's not really anything dissuading the reading that they were just a different, now-extinct species. Perhaps one that's not really capable of being sustained in the less aetherically dense environment, so they gradually either died and were replaced by, as mentioned in a developer Q&A, sundered souls desperately yearning for aspects they either remembered having or want.

Though I don't dislike this explanation, it's inconsistent with Varis, Emet, and Alphinaud all taking it as a given than the denizens of the Source, once fully Rejoined, would be equivalent to Ancients in various conversations leading into and during Shadowbringers. You could brush one off as the character being unreliable, but all three saying the similar stuff does make it seem like that was what the writers intended at the time.

I get the allegory and think it works for what it is, but I think trying to rationalize it fully within the setting kinda a fools errand. It's obvious in retrospect - especially with the Famicon interview - that they were kinda writing the Sundering stuff by the seat of their pants, changing little bits of the framing and the facts as the narrative demanded and hoping people wouldn't nerd out about it.

Also, where did you get the thing about Miqo'te from? I thought the only player races they've stated to have anything but human standard lifespans were Elezen and Viera.