So little background about me. I have maxed (Before Endwalker) out all the tanks except warrior. I have tons of max level DPS and one maxed out (Before Endwalker) White Mage.
Something that always concerned me was DPS Healers basically healers who prefer to DPS over healing. Typically, even these healers would start healing once you get below 30% health, but every now and then you get a healer who refuses to heal until you are below 15% or even 10%, which can be nerve wrecking as a tank if you did a big pull it only takes one big heal to kill you but the rule of thumb is if your still alive the healer is doing his job and if you die that's on the healer.
Greatest thing about the Paladin is the Healing Ability and it can make a difference as an off tank when things are getting real bad in a raid but I noticed for Endwalker content I have healers who are absolutely refusing to heal or will only start maybe healing once the Paladin's MP is exhausted healing himself well the healer is just DPSing.
I have not played a Sage yet, but I know they lack an instant heal, but I have been running with healers who almost never heal and are waiting for me to start healing myself. At a certain point this week I sort of tested this out by barely healing and they would let me die rather than heal me at the start of the dungeon.
I was experiencing this with Sages at first and sort of judging them harshly, but then I have gotten into some wonderful parties with them doing their jobs.
I know as a Healer, my big thing is, rather than DPSing the entire time I heal.
I have had horrible parties lately where I would get a healer they wouldn't heal and it would just be miserable and then the DPS would drop out and of course the healer would leave and thankfully the next healer typically heals rather then DPSing which has been my luck.
Is this a new trend? I just came back into the game last month and thankfully most of the dungeons have been trusts but now I am leveling my alts and the healers are getting bad. I noticed they will heal my DRK and Gunblade but my Paladin again they would rather let me die then heal me.