Meeting someone?

[Illmaeran]

Some of my friends want me to try and meet someone romantically.

Is this a dare or joke on their part, or are they sincerely hoping you'll be able to find a real life partner and are encouraging you to use the game to do so?

I met my ex-wife in a game, so I know it's possible. As the previous poster said, your best bet is to play what you want, be your genuine self, engage in communities and be open to voice chat. The worst thing you can do is force things; it's obvious and will only make you nervous or act like something you're not. BE YOURSELF! BE GENUINE! You're not everyone's type, just like I'm not everyone's type. Once I learned to accept that, my romantic life improved substantially. As long as we're always our genuine selves, when we meet people who like people like us, genuinely amazing things can happen.

[Shibi]

Play what you want to play, be who you want to be.

Though, if you form a relationship with someone, you will likely have to deal with honesty. And that comes down to the sort of person you are inside.

As it's super common in some games it's well trodden ground; Many do deal with honesty, some don't.

Is your heart pure or dark?

[Vidu]

Some of my friends want me to try and meet someone romantically.

Do you want that? Because it really doesnt matter what they want - what matters is only what you want when it comes to things like this.

Outside of that I can only echo what Daeriion already said: At the end of the day your personalty will matter a lot more than your ingame-character.

[Cyd3l]

Hello. I was wondering about something. I play as a fem Au Ra but male irl. A friend of mine in game sent me tells that if I want to meet someone I should play a male character like a bun boi or male Au Ra.

Does it really affect in meeting anyone? Or should I be happy in what I choose to play as?

It does and it doesn't. Really depends on the other person. You are more likely to get attention from other guys playing a female character. But at the same time if you get to know anyone, and are looking for a connection IRL what your character gender is probably won't matter in the end.

[Equitable_Remedy]

Hello. I was wondering about something. I play as a fem Au Ra but male irl. A friend of mine in game sent me tells that if I want to meet someone I should play a male character like a bun boi or male Au Ra.

Does it really affect in meeting anyone? Or should I be happy in what I choose to play as?

What is happening here?

[Theox]

Y'all use mmo games as dating apps now? Weird...

[Zomkei]

anyone who only cares about the race / gender of your MMO avatar isn't someone worth keeping, imo. play what you want, and don't actively look. if you meet someone, you meet someone. i agree with the other people who say don't force anything.

[Denji]

anyone who is shocked that people are using ffxiv as a dating service needs to go make a hrothgar alt and idle in limsa for more than .2 seconds on the right side of that little area between the aetherite crystal and the right-most market board.

[Rayne6665]

How is it weird xD i mean people found their love partners through mmo playing together for a long time and even got engaged/married irl. I dont see what’s wrong with that lol

[Breakbeat]

A friend of mine in game sent me tells that if I want to meet someone I should play a male character like a bun boi or male Au Ra.

This is a childish sentiment, despite what any immature people would tell you.

People meet people because they are social and agreeable to others. The gender of an online character doesn't matter.

Exactly like real life. Funny how that works, huh?

How is it weird xD i mean people found their love partners through mmo playing together for a long time and even got engaged/married irl. I dont see what’s wrong with that lol

I met my wife through a BBS back in 1992; we've now been married just shy of 30 years. Granted, in those days, you had "user meets" because users were all local, but still. I met her online, and for the first couple years of our relationship, we spent far more time together online - chatting at 2400 baud and gaming in good old ASCII - than we did in person.

BBSs had to be dialed into directly, via a landline, and long-distance phone calls (could be as little as 5 miles from your calling location, here in Los Angeles anyway) incurred expensive charges per minute. No one wanted to dial long distance and pay $0.60 a minute for their BBS usage; most BBSs themselves were free, and "local" calls within your area code were free.

Hence, everyone you met "online" would generally live fairly close to yourself because everyone chose a BBS that was local to them. There were perhaps a dozen major BBSs in the Los Angeles area back in those times, and dozens or hundreds of small ones. One generally just picked from BBSs that had local numbers, and away you went. Then you'd all meet up for pizza, to shoot pool, or just to hang out and get sauced LOL.

It's worth mentioning that several other couples from the BBS I was on most often also got married, had or adopted kids and had grandkids, and are still together to this day. Not only that, but many of us from back then still keep in touch.

Man, I miss those times.