FFXIV Girls only discord server

[Aelsioln]

I joined an "all girls" guild on another game and their verification process was simply to ask if you identified as a girl. Not in voice chat, just a written question wherever you happened to contact them (forums, Discord, in game, etc). That was it.

Were there men in the group pretending to be women? Maybe. The moderators understood though that making sure no one was harassed or taken advantage of was more important. As long as you followed the rules no one worried about who might have lied to get invited in. That group was truly free from judgement because no one was told their voice was too deep, that they didn't look feminine enough in a photo, or that they used improper pronouns. We were all queens.

From what I've seen on this thread sounds like this group could learn a thing or two from them.

[Scryar]

I really don't care about private discord servers but sexist and discriminatory ones shouldn't be advertised here.

[BluexBird]

Guys, I'm just gonna come out and say it - this whole "women-only" thing doesn't work on the internet. There are too many trolls who will make it impossible for this to EVER work. Cancel culture has made sure of that. It takes zero effort to pretend you're a woman, and then attack people for refusing to play along. The fact that people are going after this server so vehemently is proof of this. It doesn't matter if the people they turned down were "actually trans people".

Now, having said that, there is one approach you could have taken that would have been A LOT better. Your mistake was trying to create a place like this and make it "public".

The best you could have hoped for is a closed server in which the people inside vouch for outsiders, and are held responsible for the people they invite. The beauty about this system is that, once you do it like this, you will realize that you don't need to gender-lock things in order to have a "safe space". But even if you DID want to gender-lock, you can trust the people already in there are women, and that they would only invite other women.

I've been in all sorts of Discord servers before. I've seen extremely good servers go to shit because the owners decided they wanted to grow, and started posting invite links everywhere. I'm here to tell you you can't have it both ways.

Also, it's not sexual discrimination if women want to have their own space and not deal with men.

[Serenitey]

A girl - but what is the point of girls only? Seriously not being rude just honestly wonder? Is it just sexist or is there more to it? Was it some issues someone had to feel safe? Not a councilor (shocking right) but I know one that said some with various issues seek safe places. Could that maybe be it? If it is just gender issues or elitism its wrong, if someone has some real issues though that is a different matter and should be ok because some have a need to feel safe. Just trying to see things from all angles.

[Jagick]

I'm curious as to how they even verify that only women are in the server. "Voice verification" isn't worth much these days. Just check out a few VRChat videos on youtube and you'll see how sophisticated some of the voice changers are these days. You've got 30 year old guys sounding like a teenage girl and vice versa, and it's damn near impossible to tell.

[Batbrat]

Just here to reiterate what's been said a million times and that's that women only spaces on the internet will absolutely never exist
It'll never exist. Trolls will get in or at least one girl will have to drag her drooling boyfriend in and after that the others want to bring in theirs too and just like that we're stuck with exactly what we were trying to avoid in the first place. Just like that you have them slipping into dms and threatening to throw themselves off buildings if you or one of the other girls don't coddle and convince him he's handsome/charming/cute/whatever he's delusional enough to want to hear. It never pans out and it's never worth it. Don't do it. Don't bother. If you want it, you just meet a couple other women and invite them to your own group. You'll never have a huge womens space, but you can sure make a small one and keep it safe. So just do that instead.

[Rannie]

I smell a really bad clique... hated them in school ain't touching them as a 40 year old woman...

[MagiusNecros]

Shocker. A discord full of girls(?) and no women with a ounce of maturity. Did not see this coming. Would be nice if they were honest with their intentions. But that would require some integrity. This thread was entertaining at least.

Years ago when I first started I was invited to a Femroe Sisterhood linkshell on the basis of we enjoyed playing as the rarest race in the game. Never joined it but it was innocent and pure in hindsight. This seems like anything but.

Given what goes on without even joining this isn't a red flag. It's a red flag parade.

And MMOS are about bringing people of all kinds together. Seems a little ridiculous to create a all girl space. Have fun peacocking each other I guess.

[Sathona]

ah the Amazon Worshipper, Melanie hath appeared.

I know others have said it, but for your own general safety do not join that server lol its very sussy

[VforVendetta]

This is my opinion on this entire thread.

Who cares? Make your dumb girls only club.

Who cares? How does her dumb all girls club affect you at all?