Endwalker was "meh" (for reasons other than technical issues)

[Lauront]

With Hermes, he comes across as moderately sympathetic initially - until you realise others are accommodating him, but it keeps going to further and further extremes, until he wants even species inimical to the star's broader well being and balance to live for the sake of it. I think at first Emet-Selch wanted to remove him from that environment and put his talents to better uses; later, he realised he was manifestly not fit for it.

I agree with the remainder of your points as well. The closest we get from the Scions being critical of her is how Y'shtola characterises the sundering after the encounter, i.e. even if it was neither just nor kind, trying to imbue a meaning into it that may well have not originally been there - at least not before the Elpis situation.