Role players please DO NOT do this!

[Enjuden]

To all of you. I fully understood that it was an option to ask them to stop. I'm not that naïve. But my anxiety makes that hard. I kept having worries about making things awkward and/or ruining THEIR experience if I did so. Which is what stopped me. And I cant role play with randoms, because again, I have bad anxiety. The point of me even making this thread was to hopefully get anyone who had thoughts of doing this to not do so in the first place. My point was never 'should I have asked them to stop?'

Also those of you not being asses or unfunny comedians about this, thank you.

Grow up.

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[Cyreil]

And then there are people who complain that this game makes us all quiet during dungeon runs.

[KizuyaKatogami]

I’m confused. So you’re too anxious to tell someone to stop when they’re making you uncomfortable but you’re not so anxious enough as to make an entire forum post about the situation whilst also telling others not to do this, despite you saying your anxiety was about ruining their fun. I can’t tell if this is a troll or not.

[Ashua]

Someone once said, "you cannot control the world, only your reaction to it." as for the anxiety, the only thing I can tell you is what, someone very wise once told me, all those doubts, fears, anxieties, those weights that hold you back and drag you down into the mire of your own mind, they are as nothing when compared to the potential that shines within you. is it easy to overcome these things, to fight one's own demons? , no. But, with time, it's a war you can win. So, keep your head up, and never stop fighting.

Another glorious quote from either Seneca or Marcus Aurelius. Modern Stoic for life!

[EnnCee]

I was tanking a roulette with randoms and got Aetherochemical Research Facility. There was a couple of players in that run that were role playing as if they were doing their own storyline type of thing and kept trying to rope me and the other player into their role playing. Neither of us was interested as they should've been able to tell when we weren't talking.

To make matters worse these people kept poking hints at us like 'These warriors are mighty quiet.' or 'I wonder why they're not talking...' This drove my anxiety up really bad. And I just kept doing emotes at them to try to keep the mood light between the entire party. Their persistence felt like borderline harassment to my oversensitive ass. But I cant get that upset since I didn't ask them to stop in the first place. The other party member was not having any of it. You should've seen how fast he left after the dungeon was over. Left via the duty menu so quickly he did.

The run was not pleasant for me at all. I do role play but mainly with friends, and definitely not in duty finder dungeons with randoms I literally met 5 seconds ago. So please... don't try to force/rope other people into your role play. Or at least just me.

bingo! reminds me of a time in aion when all the RPer's on the server got together and held a huge dance party in the pub during a fortress seige. they were not well-received for a long time after...

RP's and plain ole PC's need to be mindful that not everyone enjoys the same experience in the same way, and the events in the game need to be chosen around that mutual consideration. it sounds like to me, that you did a good job of considering them; it would have been ideal if they also considered you.

[rachcouture]

I genuinely don't understand how a tiny bit of in-character chatter during an otherwise smooth dungeon run could possibly cause you any stress, unless you have a bias against roleplayers in general. I'm saying this as someone with anxiety so severe that even medication barely makes me functional.

Were it me, I'd have just smiled and carried on, because while I might be biased as someone that roleplays on occasion, objectively, this is FAR better than dead silence, never mind the bad attitudes and other toxic behavior.

[DubiousDisk]

I had an experience like this ages ago, like I am talking way when ARR was fresh fresh and I wasn't even out of high school. Two people were RPing during a raid and kept trying to include me despite me clearly not wanting to due to not responding or even acknowledging their existence outside of actually playing the game. I eventually told them that I really wasn't comfortable RPing with them, especially mid raid and they understood and stopped entirely.

You really just have to open up about it, most players will understand or at the very least stop without a word if you make it known it's bothering you. And you kind of have to, cause for some reason in FF14, the RP community(atleast the exclusively in game RP community), is weirdly pushy and weird and don't know of that fact half the time.

[HolyReign]

Anxiety comes in many different forms, making sarcastic remarks isn't very helpful neither is telling them to, "Grow up." either.

I hope OP, that you're able to work on what triggers your anxiety, because games are meant to be fun, and having anxiety problems myself, I can see how this would effect a person.

Best of luck, and Happy Adventures!

[MilkieTea]

Anxiety comes in many different forms, making sarcastic remarks isn't very helpful neither is telling them to, "Grow up." either.

I hope OP, that you're able to work on what triggers your anxiety, because games are meant to be fun, and having anxiety problems myself, I can see how this would effect a person.

Best of luck, and Happy Adventures!

While anxiety differs person to person, expecting others to change how they go about their day to day to appease a silent stranger (who they will likely never meet again) is never okay. Your triggers are not any other persons responsibility - it is up to YOU to either speak up or remove yourself from the triggering environment.

[Mezzoforte]

To all of you. I fully understood that it was an option to ask them to stop. I'm not that naïve. But my anxiety makes that hard. I kept having worries about making things awkward and/or ruining THEIR experience if I did so. Which is what stopped me. And I cant role play with randoms, because again, I have bad anxiety. The point of me even making this thread was to hopefully get anyone who had thoughts of doing this to not do so in the first place. My point was never 'should I have asked them to stop?'

Also those of you not being asses or unfunny comedians about this, thank you.

I think its entirely weird to know there is an obvious solution, say you cant do obvious solution because of IRL problem like anxiety, but then expect others to bend to your will on something that isnt even a problem. Creating problems out of thin air. Its as easy as just, you know, not even reading what they say, turning chat off, or not caring? If your anxiety is causing you to take it way further than it needs to then you just need to tend to yourself.
No need to try and make the entirety of the player base to adapt to your issues. What if it was the same on their end, the fact you werent playing along or werent actively engaging, was making them extremely anxious and insecure? Which one of you has the moral highground?