Class/Job Stress and Adrenaline Rush, how do you deal?

[_Pigzig]

bruh i play this game to get away from stress
if u gettin stressed in the game i feel bad for u son, cant even relax in video games that must be a hell of life

[Escalon]

I honestly think a break may be in order, turn the game off and play something else for a bit, at least till Endwalker drops, a couple of days should help with that.

[Hysorn]

I mean, I used to feel a bit nervous tanking M+ dungeons in WoW because how awful pugging was, you never know if you were getting people with room temperature IQ or actual decent players. Don't really feel like that with any of the jobs in FFXIV though.

[Lexis]

I have similar issues that affect my day to day life and also shows up in group gameplay, which does indeed suck. I think every individual has their own way of coping with these issues, it's just a matter of figuring out your own.

For me, healing isn't an issue at all but rather tanking. And it's really unfortunate because I absolutely LOVE tanking. It used to be 'my thing' back in the old TBC days of WoW (around 2006 I think). Then, the community became more and more hostile to a point where making the slightest mistake would result in a barrage of verbal abuse. Even if you don't make mistakes, simply admitting you're new to something could be enough to throw the angry little goblins into a frenzy. This resulted in consistent panic attacks every time I tried to tank and I simply gave up. Tackling new content can also set off panic attacks as I can't help but imagine every worse scenario possible where I turn out to be the worse player the world has ever seen and everyone hates me. I could just give up on MMOs altogether, but I refuse to let my anxiety dictate what I get and don't get to enjoy, so I figured out lil' tricks that help sooth my dumb brain.

Before diving into new content, I always watch a video guide (MTQCapture has been my go-to for FFXIV). I also try it first as a class that I'm completely comfortable with (in my case, Machinist). Having seen the content once really does wonders for the anxiety, as you now know what to expect. Of course, you're not gonna remember every single mechanic on your first go and for that, there are two things to remember:
1- This community is very understanding, especially with new players. As long as you're trying to learn and improve, you'll be just fine.
2- You're a lot smarter/skilled than you give yourself credit for. Always remember that one when you get the first-timer jitters.

As for tackling roles that are anxiety inducing (in your case, healing), I'd recommend keeping them as alts, that way you don't feel pressured into playing it in order to progress and instead dive in at your own pace. If you want to get into a 50+ dungeon as a healer and find yourself really anxious at the idea, try going in said dungeon as a DPS first and pay attention to the out-going damage. Try to mentally go over how you would deal with it with your healer so that you don't feel caught off guard once you try it again as a healer. This way, you'll build confidence in your own ability and, over time, may not even need to do this anymore. It's all about putting yourself in the right mindset before going in.

Hopefully this help, but even if it doesn't: try things, experiment, figure out what does and doesn't work for you. It's those little tricks I've picked up over the years that get me through the day and it's absolutely worth the effort you'll put into it

[Nekaru_Infitima]

You guys all say it's fine to mess up as a healer time to time, it's just a game, and such. And I understand where you're coming from...

But on this same forum the Duty Finder Thread is mostly people shittalking healers that can't handle DPSing and healing at the same time, and mistakes.

I feel like the DF thread is the most expected, but will probably lead to the most stress.

...So which is the more accepted?

[Caurcas]

As a healer you will fail sometimes, or others will fail you. This is part of the game. They will get mad, or you will get mad. This again is part of the game. The best advice I can proffer is to throw yourself at it till you get good at it, even if other players get butthurt and mad.

[Snorky]

You guys all say it's fine to mess up as a healer time to time, it's just a game, and such. And I understand where you're coming from...

But on this same forum the Duty Finder Thread is mostly people shittalking healers that can't handle DPSing and healing at the same time, and mistakes.

I feel like the DF thread is the most expected, but will probably lead to the most stress.

...So which is the more accepted?

It's not all on you, remember you are only human. Just keep trying. I never got to the point of a panic attack but I use to get pretty stressed. I don't play a healer for a reason. Because people are unforgiving and can be cruel. Maybe just start off with friends until you are comfortable healing. But if you like the job class keep trying you will get there.

[Michieltjuhh]

You guys all say it's fine to mess up as a healer time to time, it's just a game, and such. And I understand where you're coming from...

But on this same forum the Duty Finder Thread is mostly people shittalking healers that can't handle DPSing and healing at the same time, and mistakes.

I feel like the DF thread is the most expected, but will probably lead to the most stress.

...So which is the more accepted?

People will vent, more so behind your back than openly. Regarding the Dungeon Finder thread however, you'll find that a lot of those scenarios were not related to a kind player who simply wasn't performing 300%, but a mute one who refuses to listen, speak, or change.

You seem to care about what you assume others think, hence why I asked how you deal with it in IRL situations, such as giving a presentation for strangers in your field of work or the like. Performance anxiety is an issue that will plague you in games just as much as it will in real life scenarios, so if you have a fix for it there, try applying that to the game.

[Skivvy]

You guys all say it's fine to mess up as a healer time to time, it's just a game, and such. And I understand where you're coming from...

But on this same forum the Duty Finder Thread is mostly people shittalking healers that can't handle DPSing and healing at the same time, and mistakes.

I feel like the DF thread is the most expected, but will probably lead to the most stress.

...So which is the more accepted?

I've generally found the attitude of players in game to be far normal/forgiving than how the forum community presents itself. I think most people in-game are quite understanding and tend to go with the flow of things although it never hurts to let your group know you're still learning a role, new to content or whatever the case may be. Mistakes are going to happen, and even the best players will still fudge things up now and then, so I wouldn't stress too much on that.

[Lexis]

You guys all say it's fine to mess up as a healer time to time, it's just a game, and such. And I understand where you're coming from...

But on this same forum the Duty Finder Thread is mostly people shittalking healers that can't handle DPSing and healing at the same time, and mistakes.

I feel like the DF thread is the most expected, but will probably lead to the most stress.

...So which is the more accepted?

For the most part, posts you'll find there aren't about players making mistakes but rather having no clue how to play their class/role altogether or displaying less than ideal attitudes. Even then, things usually don't get confrontational during the run and people rather bear through it and vent about it later on the forums.

If you read your tooltips are try to play your role to the best of your ability, you're already miles ahead of most people that get griped about in the Duty Finder thread. Everyone makes mistakes, heck I know I do, but mistakes aren't what make nightmare runs.