You just need to find an FC that suits your needs. I will say discord is nice to have as a secondary chat for scheduling content runs, events and such. Those FC's that make discord mandatory, you should steer clear of. I would suggest the Community Finder here on the official ffxiv website. Remember your not obligated to stay with any one FC if you are not happy with it. Try the other 100+ FC's that are out there, I'm sure you'll find one that feels right.