I don't think asking for someone to do the one thing only their role can do is too much. While I may not have gone for the phrasing you did since it sounds a little condescending (just making an observation, I honestly wouldn't have blinked if someone told me that) , I fully agree that keeping the party alive to DO the damage is more important than doing the damage (though DPS taking hits at all is really a bad sign as well, mostly they shouldn't even need healing).

It sounds like you got a group of friends who either don't understand how the game works and have been carried by a do-it-all Paladin in the past, or were just ... impaired somehow. Be it drink or drugs or distraction or simply boredom.


I wouldn't give it a second thought. You're playing as you're supposed to and silliness such as that is rare.