"Everyone's so open and friendly" is a lie

[Velnora]

It indeed seems you are, at the very least unintentionally, attempting to gaslight by convincing both yourselves and others that "being polite is no longer enough," because there are "updates to the ToS," and when called out on that, continue to attempt to convince others that yes, there were changes made to the ToS in regards to player-to-player interactions (other than the ones made to address stalking and RMT advertisements in the PF).

That isn't what gaslighting is. Updating ToS, while creating specific examples of infractions =/= changes. For years, the ToS were incredibly unclear, which left many confused as to what was allowed.