"Everyone's so open and friendly" is a lie

[linayar]

it's about the OP lamenting the fact that any kind of harsh language or arguing can get you gaoled due to the insane self policing the community does, which encourages a crapton of passive aggressiveness instead of resolving the issue in the first place

There is room in between using harsh language and being passive aggressive. The problem seems to come from both extremes, whereas I suspect many in the community can be comfortable not doing either.

But if people want to continue to frame it as only those two extremes with no other choice, then I have yet to be convinced to think that passive aggressive is not more tolerable than outright toxicity for the reason I've stated earlier in the thread.