"Everyone's so open and friendly" is a lie

[Oscura]

The craziest thing about this thread is all the wild assumptions people made in the earlier pages about OP because they poorly represented their own opinion. They didn't ask to call people slurs or insult them. The worst they even implied was "being rude," which is...broad. That can jump from anything like, "You're doing the mechanic wrong," to "you're terrible at this game," depending who you ask.

It's really telling that people immediately resorted to questioning their maturity or inferring they cannot handle things like, "an adult," despite the fact that they explicitly asked for the ability to directly disagree or even challenge someone else's viewpoint like an adult in order to settle their differences. Even some people replying about "responding calmly," as if OP themselves, in their two whole posts I might add, ever got overly aggressive or toxic.

You don't have to agree with them but the complete and utter lack of self-awareness from some of you people is astonishing. The fact that you immediately jump for the jugular and question OP's character speaks volumes on its own.

I have no horse in the race of "is FFXIV secretly toxic or not?" but I'm also tired of how every time this topic comes up whoever brought it up is usually proven right. A very good amount of comments were posted for the intent of picking fights or just to call people jerks or names. You'd figure the forums would want to set a good example and apologize for their experience and attempt to assuage their worries or something. Nope though, gotta immediately start implying or directly suggesting OP is either the problem or that they only thing they desire is chaos.