"Everyone's so open and friendly" is a lie

[Exosapien]

It's kind of weird that so many people are latching onto the "swearing" part of this whole thing.

Like swearing, as said before, is not the problem. The problem is that whenever some people feel inconvenienced in a video game they lose their minds and start harassing the people that aren't living up to their own personal arbitrary standards.

And then, on top of that, just because YOU might be angry and in your feefees about something, doesn't mean you have the right to start being a complete jerk to everyone - whether you're swearing at them or not.

Are that many people so emotionally stunted? "It's natural" blah blah blah. As if we as people aren't capable of higher thinking and self-control.

[Izscha]

Are that many people so emotionally stunted? "It's natural" blah blah blah. As if we as people aren't capable of higher thinking and self-control.

Kinda ironic to see that while you got ppl who says "muh my feelings" for absolutly anything that do bother them in life especially on internet and ppl are all nice about it, but when it comes to anger it's not feelings anymore you "deal with it that's not our problem".
Can't wait for you to say that the next time someone is whinning on any thread in the future

[Exosapien]

Kinda ironic to see that while you got ppl who says "muh my feelings" for absolutly anything that do bother them in life especially on internet and ppl are all nice about it, but when it comes to anger it's not feelings anymore you "deal with it that's not our problem".
Can't wait for you to say that the next time someone is whinning on any thread in the future

Your anger literally is your own problem.

I don't understand your point, or your assertion of my future actions.

When I used the word "you" it wasn't specific to any individual so please don't take it so personally.

[Izscha]

Your anger literally is your own problem.

I don't understand your point, or your assertion of my future actions.

When I used the word "you" it wasn't specific to any individual so please don't take it so personally.

I did not in fact, just pointing out that it's easy to say this to "the mean guys with anger" but if you have this kind of comment on anger i do hope to see you saying the exact same thing to anyone else that brings up their feelings on anything and you'll come just like here like "Hey stop whinning control yourself like anyone else".
Something do tell me that you wont do it, because it's mean when it comes to anything that isn't anger and that's my point.

[Exosapien]

I did not in fact, just pointing out that it's easy to say this to "the mean guys with anger" but if you have this kind of comment on anger i do hope to see you saying the exact same thing to anyone else that brings up their feelings on anything and you'll come just like here like "Hey stop whinning control yourself like anyone else".
Something do tell me that you wont do it, because it's mean when it comes to anything that isn't anger and that's my point.

I'm confused as to why you think I'm saying you can't communicate your feelings at all. What I'm saying is that people should be emotionally mature enough to not flip their lid and start harassing other people because they were inconvenienced in a video game. At no point am I saying, "You're angry so you don't get to speak your mind whatsoever."

If you're not able to communicate when something upset you without vitriol, then that's when it is a problem.

[Izscha]

I'm confused as to why you think I'm saying you can't communicate your feelings at all. What I'm saying is that people should be emotionally mature enough to not flip their lid and start harassing other people because they were inconvenienced in a video game. At no point am I saying, "You're angry so you don't get to speak your mind whatsoever."

If you're not able to communicate when something upset you without vitriol, then that's when it is a problem.

And i do agree with that that's not my problem here, all i'm saying is since it seems so easy to you to say such thing on anger it must be the same with any other feelings.
Your "it's a video game" argument isn't relevant either, because like anger there is a ton of ppl even here that will say that they're stressed / anxious or feel sadness over a videogame, and not once i've seen someone say something like you did on anger.
If anyone do say something like "i'm nervous and i panick and die" no one will say "Wth it's a videogame dude keep your nerves up" while at the same time it seems totally ok to say such things about anger and frustrating situation, while it's the same thing, ppl feeling stuff.
That's the kind of double standards that do amuse me nothing more than that.

[Exosapien]

And i do agree with that that's not my problem here, all i'm saying is since it seems so easy to you to say such thing on anger it must be the same with any other feelings.
Your "it's a video game" argument isn't relevant either, because like anger there is a ton of ppl even here that will say that they're stressed / anxious or feel sadness over a videogame, and not once i've seen someone say something like you did on anger.
If anyone do say something like "i'm nervous and i panick and die" no one will say "Wth it's a videogame dude keep your nerves up" while at the same time it seems totally ok to say such things about anger and frustrating situation, while it's the same thing, ppl feeling stuff.
That's the kind of double standards that do amuse me nothing more than that.

I have no idea how you're applying this to "other feelings besides anger" except maybe that you're talking about all negative feelings.

If you're generally, let's say, "happy" with other players then you're not inclined to lash out at them, are you?

I genuinely do not understand how it's a "double standard" to say a person's anger is their own problem.

And it is absolutely relevant to say, "it's a video game" when the real world exists and there are real problems besides someone not dpsing as hard as possible.

I guess I can clarify that I'm talking about negative feelings in general and not "just anger" are something that individual people need to work through, and having "feelings" at all does not give you the right to harass and verbally berate other people.

I really don't know why I need to clarify that, but the point is that your negative feelings are not an excuse to be a toxic person.

[Nishira]

And i do agree with that that's not my problem here, all i'm saying is since it seems so easy to you to say such thing on anger it must be the same with any other feelings.
Your "it's a video game" argument isn't relevant either, because like anger there is a ton of ppl even here that will say that they're stressed / anxious or feel sadness over a videogame, and not once i've seen someone say something like you did on anger.
If anyone do say something like "i'm nervous and i panick and die" no one will say "Wth it's a videogame dude keep your nerves up" while at the same time it seems totally ok to say such things about anger and frustrating situation, while it's the same thing, ppl feeling stuff.
That's the kind of double standards that do amuse me nothing more than that.

Now that is a really interesting comment, I had never considered it that way. You’ve got a good point, thank you for shining a light on something I hadn’t considered.

As for your other comment, I think I go into a game, and content with others in it, with a mindset that doesn’t expect failure or success. Simply a: let’s give it a go and see how it plays out. I don’t get frustrated easily because of that, I accept things as they come and try to be flexible with what I get. I’ll do my best obviously and try enable a success from my part, but that’s the only thing truly in my control. From what I’ve observed, one of the biggest sources of frustrations in games, is expecting an easy win and perceiving other players as obstacles when they don’t give one.

I don’t distinguish between the attitudes and what is morally ‘correct’, after all the discussions on what can be expected of others here on this forum I understand the different viewpoints somewhat, even if they are not my own. But personally I’d always choose the mindset that gives me most peace, and least bitterness, resentment and anger towards others. It doesn’t seem a particularly fun way of playing games to me when those emotions sort of dominate your experience. I’d choose a different mindset or hobby in that case haha. But there’s no judgement in that, more a not fully understanding why people would put themselves through that on a regular basis