"Everyone's so open and friendly" is a lie

[FusiaRain]

Is this directed at me?

Who says I don't get frustrated?

I just manage to interrupt the "FIRETRUCK" before it goes all the way through from brain to fingers to enter key. I'll even swear out loud. I'm just wondering how people whack out swear words in text and seemingly have absolutely no chance to stop it before blamming that out.

EDIT: What do you do when dealing with say.. children? Children are notoriously frustrating to deal with, but are also generally not OK to swear around (kids learn new words really fast! especially if you don't want them to and they LOVE words that get reactions), so what do you do in real life when you get frustrated but are not allowed to or just shouldn't swear?

Well to your edit not everyone wants kids and avoids them. So honestly its easy just avoid and do your own thing.

Also to add onto what I have said there are things that prevent that. When your having mood swings, manic episode even when you take your meds people poking at you.

Sometimes things dont enter my brain at all I type/talk with my heart often times not even knowing what I type until I press enter. When your angry rush typing is to be expect as well.

I believe this is the issue is people dont seem to realize not everyone writes, creates or types with logic or brain running it some or more emotion based which is a huge difference. Some people also are more sensitive than others.

[AlyaNimfa]

Most times you wont even know the age of people you're talking to, so no idea how one would avoid them.

Also, game is PG13, 13 year olds know more swear words than you, trust me.

[Krotoan]

Well to your edit not everyone wants kids and avoids them. So honestly its easy just avoid and do your own thing.

Not necessarily your own. I personally don't have kids either but I do have to go places where kids are, like.. outside. However kids are just one of many examples. Another being work, yet another super frustrating environment sometimes. How do you stop swearing at work? Hitting people? Lashing out in any way?

Also to add onto what I have said there are things that prevent that. When your having mood swings, manic episode even when you take your meds people poking at you.

While of course actual dysfunctions or chemical imbalances are somewhat examples but like managing anything else you should not put yourself in the situation if you understand you could "lose control".

Sometimes things dont enter my brain at all I type/talk with my heart often times not even knowing what I type until I press enter. When your angry rush typing is to be expect as well.

... maybe work on that. Self control is a skill to be exercised.

Most times you wont even know the age of people you're talking to, so no idea how one would avoid them.

Also, game is PG13, 13 year olds know more swear words than you, trust me.

Y'all are focusing too much on the kids part. It's the control part that I'm asking about. You think up your own example and I'm sure you know of at least one: "what do you do when you're in a frustrating situation where you aren't allowed or just shouldn't swear?". Or is your life entirely structured around NOT being in those situations? I'd be impressed. The point being playing FFXIV is one of those situations we've ALL put ourselves in. It's known we probably shouldn't swear in anything other than secure interactions between known quantities. Is it really that hard to limit ones self? Is the rest of everyones lives just full of outbursts and structured around never putting themselves in a place they can't do it?

I believe this is the issue is people dont seem to realize not everyone writes, creates or types with logic or brain running it some or more emotion based which is a huge difference. Some people also are more senstibe than others.

It's obvious others are going to be different. However the rules will not bend to them. You either can work within the rules and guidelines or realize what your limitations are and work to make sure they don't accidentally get you in trouble. I suppose never saying anything in "say" is a way to do it. Maybe it's the gap I have where typing is a conscious action for me and not what I grew up from a baby communicating in. I'm not sure what your last sentence is supposed to say.. sensitive? Sensible?

Either way, yes.. but just because you're more passionate or have a short temper or take words to heart easily shouldn't mean you get to skirt rules.

[AlyaNimfa]

I be mature about things and handle it without being obnoxious or rude. I've had countless people literally scream in my face, or over the phone, it's like water off a ducks back to me now.
When it comes to online, I go grab a coffee, or have a short break and come back if things are real bad. There's just no real need to be rude, and it gets you nowhere. Other than even more worked up.

[FusiaRain]

Not necessarily your own. I personally don't have kids either but I do have to go places where kids are, like.. outside. However kids are just one of many examples. Another being work, yet another super frustrating environment sometimes. How do you stop swearing at work? Hitting people? Lashing out in any way?


While of course actual dysfunctions or chemical imbalances are somewhat examples but like managing anything else you should not put yourself in the situation if you understand you could "lose control".


... maybe work on that. Self control is a skill to be exercised.



Y'all are focusing too much on the kids part. It's the control part that I'm asking about. You think up your own example and I'm sure you know of at least one: "what do you do when you're in a frustrating situation where you aren't allowed or just shouldn't swear?". Or is your life entirely structured around NOT being in those situations? I'd be impressed. The point being playing FFXIV is one of those situations we've ALL put ourselves in. It's known we probably shouldn't swear in anything other than secure interactions between known quantities. Is it really that hard to limit ones self? Is the rest of everyones lives just full of outbursts and structured around never putting themselves in a place they can't do it?

Well simple under breath sware and knowing most the people around me with how they are that they are harming themselves.

Also shopping at night and the places I go for my styles kids arent really in those stores, or they are things I have to custom order. Honestly can avoid them irl completely.

But to answer your question I think of irl in fantasy terms which for the most part keeps me calm plus digging my nails into my arm to remain calm has been a habit since I was 15