This reads like you came from a game notorious for it's horrible community, heard that FFXIV has a better community (because objectively that makes no sense) and then came to it expecting it to be perfect and have no faults at all and now you want to fan some flames. There are definitely bad actors in this community, these forum provide plenty of evidence for that. Elitists, bigots, etc etc etc, no community is perfect.

No one, however, owes you "fights and arguments to resolve problems." What even is that? If you need to literally fight and argue with people get anything "solved" you're better off in single player games arguing with NPCs. In no way is someone dismissing you by being passive aggressive "just as detrimental" or worse than having a full blown tantrum on the internet.

No one is treating you badly for "wanting to talk, be social and make friends," while at the same time absolutely no one owes you conversation. Anyone can "refuse to speak" to anyone they want, not to mention you have no idea why people aren't engaging with you when they literally aren't speaking to you.