Quote Originally Posted by Razdazim View Post
After having been here since June or July I can say this is the biggest lie that this game's player base tells and I am sick of it. This entire problem is promoted by the heavy handedness of this games harassment policies, making it impossible to have fights and arguments in a attempt to resolve problems that instead encourages passive aggressive behavior that is just as detrimental if not worse. At least when there is fights and arguments people know where another stands, what the problem is instead of attempting to ghost and being child like. If someone has done something wrong, no matter how petty one may perceive it no one is allowed to be critical.

I am absolutely disgusted, and I hate this concept of people wanting to talk, be social and make friends one minute but without warning having done nothing people suddenly refuse to speak. It's flat out hypocritical and disingenuous.
Arguments most often just lead nowhere, simply with two people pissed off. If you cannot be constructive in your criticism in game then that's nobody's fault but your own. You can call out someone messing up a mechanic without being rude about it, I helped sprouts plenty and they most often were happy for the advice or reminders if they forgot something. I had one guy be rude and prissy about it and that's it. Is every person in the community nice? No, but on the whole I think ffxiv is a lot nicer of a community than WoW, LoL, hell even my time trying to discuss a suggestion of a PvP toggle with Souls players resulted in trolling and vitriol.. you'd think I asked to kill their baby.

I don't think the policies are heavy handed at all, I am playing 3 years now and on the whole the experience is positive. It sounds like you deal with so much passive aggression in your family life that when it rears its head in game it is more triggering for you. You can have a discussion in party chat over mechanics, but what exactly do you really need to be fighting over? It's not that deep, if I found myself stuck in a party with hard headed people that can't take advice and I know they will NEVER clear without taking that advice.. I will just leave the instance. Save myself the headache. You don't get to just be toxic with people because you don't like the passive aggression, if someone says something snarky and mean you don't then punch them in response. You can either respond in kind, block them, try and be more level headed in your argument or straight up just leave and let them be someone else's problem.