"Everyone's so open and friendly" is a lie

[Floortank]

After having been here since June or July I can say this is the biggest lie that this game's player base tells and I am sick of it. This entire problem is promoted by the heavy handedness of this games harassment policies, making it impossible to have fights and arguments in a attempt to resolve problems that instead encourages passive aggressive behavior that is just as detrimental if not worse. At least when there is fights and arguments people know where another stands, what the problem is instead of attempting to ghost and being child like. If someone has done something wrong, no matter how petty one may perceive it no one is allowed to be critical.

I am absolutely disgusted, and I hate this concept of people wanting to talk, be social and make friends one minute but without warning having done nothing people suddenly refuse to speak. It's flat out hypocritical and disingenuous.

It's hilarious to suggest that the game's policies are why people are cruel to each other.

You know, you can have an argument with someone right in the center of Limsa or your FC if you want, and not get punished. You don't have to be passive aggressive. Here, I'll show you.

You're wrong that SE policies have caused this because people were being explicitly rude as well as passive aggressive before this update to the "prohibited activities", and in other games I've played as well.

Challenging someone is not prohibited. How you challenge them and where you challenge them have become important.

I won't be penalized for arguing with you, for example, because I've been civil, direct, and I'm doing it in a public forum which is designed for debate.

Maybe if you can't make a suggestion that forms your counter argument to whatever error you think someone is making in a duty, you should find a different person to play with, someone who agrees with you. Calling someone out in the middle of a duty is not the way to do it, nor is it the place to do it, and nothing gets solved that way. It only happens that someone eventually gets shunned.

You can however, differ with people at the appropriate time and place, and with very direct words, if you make it clear that you are not attacking the person but merely their point of view.