"Everyone's so open and friendly" is a lie

[FujikoN]

I don't think passive aggression like that exists. Passive aggressive people are the kind of ppl who are forced -by the community or the game creators to shut their mouth if they can't express themselves in a more moderate way. I think everybody has to learn how to communicate with critics in a constructive way, kinda wrap your words into glam and glitter. Actually, those who don't like any critics, or even not tolerate any comment regarding their person created the word "passive aggressive" because there is a way they can fight back, attack you and twist out all of your words even if it wasn't wrong or it didn't mean. The mature person can express themselves in a way it's should and a mature person can accept constructive criticism in a way it should. Creating bs concepts just to find a way to attack others is not the best way to communicate or be a part of something. I don't mind if -when I make a mistake -someone suggests to me the solution and guides me to the correct way. If someone says something rude that is simply aggression, That's it. There are always plenty of ways to kindly ask someone to save us from their presence, and we shouldn't slap the door on their face or send them to hell.

[Rinhi]

could also be that the mentor hasn't done that dungeon in literal years, you know? and saying that, maybe done it exactly once all those years ago?

[Yma]

Only problem I have with the anti-toxicity rules is that when everyone is quiet, or I don't get any comms, my brain likes to tell me that it's because everyone hates me.

That's a "me" issue, and it's my responsibility to deal with. It is in my power to deal with it.

In other MMOs people yell slurs, wish death upon each other, flood zone-wide chat and even official forums with prejudice and bigotry. That is not a "me" issue, and there is nothing I can do about it. I prefer it here.

[EaraGrace]

I've yet to see a single instance of someone being banned or warned even when they didn't 100% deserve it.

I'll worry then.

[_Pigzig]

all you fakers, all you phonys

[CeL1790]

I can't really weigh in on this, I've been playing about a year or two now. for the most part, the people I've met are nice and helpful. but, by and large, I tend to stay within my friend group rarely ever going out of my way to meet new people. My overall experience with the community has been positive, a lot of tips and advice given, being taken to every aether crystal I could feasible be taken to when I was only a week in by a random stranger in a flying car. overall positive.

[Darksummoner]

I wish I could relate to this thread but I been playing this game now for about 7 months and I have yet to run into a rude person. So for now I can't relate to this issue.

[Puc]

Me running into rude or white knight paired with casual people is like an "Oh, forget your type exist". But when you do they test your TOS caring. Also almost got kicked from a paradigm breach raid for telling the tank to turn the boss around for the 2nd time (me playing dancer). Snakes in these grass and makes me not care for helping others much out of my way anymore.

[Kukra]

I disagree. I was put off by this game for years because of forced dungeons within the MSQ. My time playing World of Warcraft for over 12 years gave me the fear of being yelled at for the smallest mistake in any group content (( plus political hate speech in larger raids, that is also pointless)). So I feared even going into the first dung because I'm not used to the game. But I didn't learn FFXIV don't have that problem till a few months ago, so I don't mind doing non FC pugging.

I don't miss all the hate speech as so called opinions in trade chat and the super toxic LFR chat. I don't miss the gen forums gaslighting players calling them bad because they pointing out a problem in the game. I don't miss the toxic players telling everyone to quit so their game can be their way and so more.

[Lunalepsy]

I want someone genuine in my life.