"Everyone's so open and friendly" is a lie

[Gameovers]

Just have a hot take opinion and sparks fly sometimes. Liking Lyse or stormblood for one. Kidding aside this game is no better than any other. We have good cats bad cats and crazy cats. Just look on this forum or Reddit. The thing is people are people and they will do people things. Some good some bad and some inbetween. I just try to relax and poke noses.

[Kahnom]

The wave of new players, the hype, the expectations, all of these make people think that this game is the oasis in the desert with sunshine and rainbows community.

They're dead wrong. Human are still human, there will be good and bad people like everywhere else.
Tone down your expectation a bit and you will see everything as it should be.

[Shin96]

Everyone being friendly and open is a convenient lie. Truth is people only care if you're popular or rich; otherwise you're considered one of the dregs of society.

The problem with this game and its respective community is that they're like a cult. They have to prove they belong by repeating positive mantras; constantly
reaffirming that the game has little to no flaws; apologize everytime before practising open critique towards any aspect. Otherwise you are shunned and excluded.

What am I? Neither. I have a tendency to sympathize with children and vulnerable people but honestly I'm a lone wolf. If you need help, expect to see me out of nowhere. If I have no purpose for being there; I won't be.

[KenshiKawa]

@OP

This is very true. Not only this, but I found a big cesspool of toxic player community in pvp / frontlines.

If you don't strictly follow the self-appointed leader / call-outs, you will be kicked from the frontline.

Forbid if you wanted to venture off to capture a point solo, or do 1 vs 1 combat within the instance. Nope. You get kicked because you aren't with the group.

I really with they would remove the kick feature save for Auto Kick due to AFK.

Kicking players from PVP modes is way too abused right now

[Jeeqbit]

I've never seen anyone kicked from pvp in my life. I didn't know it was even possible.

[Loonies]

Unfriendly people in FF14, i never met one and i am doing a lot of dungeons roulette. Even a wipe, just go again, no bad behavior.

[Jeeqbit]

I think people interpret passive-aggression where there is none and just assume it is there out of anxiety. Where there is passive-aggression, it just isn't the same as actually being rude, because if it's passive then it's in the person's head and they are keeping it to themselves. If it's passive like healing you enough but healing you less, you can ignore it and let it remain in that person's head.

[linayar]

I think people interpret passive-aggression where there is none and just assume it is there out of anxiety. Where there is passive-aggression, it just isn't the same as actually being rude, because if it's passive then it's in the person's head and they are keeping it to themselves. If it's passive like healing you enough but healing you less, you can ignore it and let it remain in that person's head.

Indeed. That's why it's much more tolerable than actual toxicity. It's not just a different kind of toxic behavior. Especially on the internet, most people probably wouldn't even notice it.

And where people would notice aggressive behaviors, then it would also be clear and can even fall under actionable (reportable) actions depending on what it is.

[VictorTheed]

May just be a crazy thought, a really bizarre and crazy outlandish thought, but maybe, just maybe, it's not the developers job in games to cater to peoples hurt feelings, it's the people and whoever they have a problem with to fix these issues themselves and developers should be focused on making fun interesting content and giving us the best deals financially for their product.

I know that's crazy, man I don't know where that came from, plz forgive me, that's not me at all, i must have ate some bad Reese Cups, I knew I should have had a Snickers bar.

[KizuyaKatogami]

That explains why it felt cult like.

Honestly this is what a lot of this community feels like a lot of the time xD Especially when it comes to giving criticism to the game, it feels like people are in this 14 cult where you need to love every aspect of the game and any criticism is wrong lmao.