"Swift completion" is relative to the game, not the community

[Kaoru_Nagisa]

Or try this theory. As long as people like you say things are ok, the message you are giving is acceptance. Not knowing your class is acceptable. Not knowing a rotation is acceptable. Spamming medica 2 is acceptable. Not using cool downs on tank busters is acceptable.
As example I’ve given before, I can’t tell a healer to use more than medica 2, a tank to mitigate attacks that do nearly 50% of their hp, a black mage to use fire spells because in group content, especially alliance, there’s always someone who says “they are doing fine”.
Maybe they aren’t doing fine. That’s why someone spoke up. Advice may not always sound pretty, but that doesn’t mean its unsubstantiated or wrong. People don’t like being told they are doing something wrong. Being called out in public can be embarrassing. But it may, in the long wrong, benefit the player. As far as public embarrassment, do you think if i said “nishira, what your doing is X, try Y because reasons”, that anyone would remember who you were in a few days? A week? Take the advice. Run with it. Try it out. Move on. Move forward.
The community on the other hand has this hero complex. They have to swoop in and block players from criticism. Villify anyone who may hurt a players feelings. Attack because they accuse the person being critical of attacking. (Makes sense….) Those players aren’t helping anyone but themselves. An ego stroke, with the final result being stunting a players growth.
I’d like to consider myself above average in player skill. On some classes at least. But I didn’t get there on my own. I took advice. I accepted i had room to improve. That other players maybe knew more than i did. A lot of cases, didn’t know i was doing something incorrectly until it was pointed out. THAT right there needs to happen. Awareness. Not shielding people to protect a hurt feeling that they can over come

I've nothing further to add to the conversation that hasn't already been said, so just quoting you because you sum it up nicely.

And also because I want to extend the offer of a competent tank/healer should you ever have need of one on Crystal.