Quote Originally Posted by Elladie View Post
What I am actually asking is that confident, competent players try to help those less confident and competent. If the other three in the Ghimlyt Dark had been sympathetic and helpful instead of insulting and rude, my friend might still be playing. He might have discovered he COULD do whatever it was that was bothering him (mostly that he had never run the dungeon before). Similarly, if the healer is struggling (for whatever reason) try and assist instead of telling them to 'git gud'.
First and foremost, let's define "insulting and rude" because I see far too often those adjectives being applied to any sort of criticism. You mention elsewhere they told your tank friend to essentially uninstalled. What prompted that response? People usually don't jump to the nuclear option instantaneously. Did he refuse to tank the extra mobs; perhaps turning off his stance or purposely sheathing his weapon and letting them die? If it were entirely unprovoked, then they were jerks. I'll grant you that. Therefore, they aren't worth a second thought.

With all this said, you are once again putting the onus on random strangers. It isn't our job to be patient and overly accommodate to someone who hasn't even learned the basics of their jobs by level 70. At 50? Sure, I'll be more accommodating. And even more so in early leveling dungeons. By Ghimlyn Dark though, we've long reached a point of taking initiative. It's a similar vein to DPS not AoEing or Healers refusing to DPS. If you haven't figured out how to weave in some DPS as a healer or how your AoE buttons work by 70, you're simply being lazy. Refusing to pull more than a single pack on a four year old dungeon at that same level is laziness.