help dealing with harassment

[Bsrking5]

Welcome to the internet. Develop a thick skin and ignoring those people is the best way to get it to stop. SE isn't likely to do much if anything. If your forever thin skinned your time on the internet is gonna suck.

[nebby00]

I'm a sensitive person by nature towards myself and other people, however I do realize that people on the internet feel emboldened to do harassment against others because they're anonymous. The best solution is to either ignore them, or like you had done, move to another DC and if you desire to still socialize with people, find people who are willing to accept you and generally be chill. If someone doesn't mesh well with you, it's fine. Just cut that person out of your life and appreciate the people who appreciate you, but don't form an echo chamber. That is bad, and will eventually result in either toxic behavior or blacklisting people who don't agree with you over minor things. That's one of the only ways you can find some sort of solace, this goes for in-game and irl.

As far as blocking people to the point of filling up your blacklist... I am a bit bewildered how you got 200 people in your blacklist, if you were harassed by 200 people, I genuinely feel bad for you and I hope you're doing better now that you switched DCs. Wishing the best for you ^.^

[Lanadra]

I'm a bit torn on this. On one hand I don't want to mock you, OP, because being harassed is horrible. On the other hand.. telling us that your blacklist.. which can hold 200 people.. is full and you apparently need to block even more people.. unless most of your list is filled with RMT spammers as is the case for plenty of us.. I have a lot of difficulty believing all 200 of those people are the problem and you just their innocent victim. Usually people who encounter problems everywhere they go in the game are doing something themselves to always get such negative interactions.

Either way, I do hope that this stops for you now that you've transferred to a different DC, I think you shouldn't have had to.. but if that solves the problem for you then that'll have to be the solution I reckon.

[Ferra]

First, being harassed is a horrible experience. I don't put up with that junk and if I see it happening to someone I tell them to knock it off. Trust me, you RP long enough and you'll find plenty of creeps and weirdos that will stalk and harass you, make up nonsense about you, etc...It's not great.

That being said, OP, I agree with Lanadra. If you're having to block more than 200 people on your DC...Just what the heck did you do? Your OP doesn't really say anything on your end and people aren't harassed for no reason very often. You're basically blocking a good majority of your DC and you seem like you're looking to block more.

One thing in particular concerns me:

after bouncing around fc's on the light dc and moving server twice due to harassment

The fact it's happening over multiple worlds and that you're hopping FCs like it's going out of style raises a good number of questions.

I do hope you find a solution to your problem OP, but I feel there's more to this that isn't being shared.

[MirielleLavandre]

Just a side note - if the OP is truly being chased around and harassed, moving servers or DC and even changing names won't really help. Each char is a unique identifier, and someone who bookmarked her old character or even Google searches it will lead to the one with a new name and new DC. The only really true way to avoid all potentially bad past people is to start an entirely new character and don't rejoin a FC you were once a part of^^

[Ferra]

You're right Mirielle. Like I said I had to deal with weirdos like that. But it's like once I deal with that person that's it. I'm...kinda impressed with the amount of persistence these people have, let alone how many there are...

Barring some sort of truly horrible slight I'm struggling to see what caused a stuffed BL and two world transfers...

Best option at this rate may be to make a new character and boost them. I hate saying that but if it's as dire as you say you're not going to shake these people on your same character, no matter how many times you Fanta or transfer.

[Derio]

Your best bet would be moving datacenters or changing your name

[Theodric]

Your best bet would be moving datacenters or changing your name

That will only accomplish so much. Server visit is set to be expanded in due time to erode the hard boundaries that are currently in place between datacentres. In addition, even changing a character name and transferring elsewhere does little to deter stalkers as simply throwing one's old character name into a search engine brings up the page for the new character name. I know as much because every few months I change my character name based on whether I want to play a Raen or a Hyur at the time.

[RitsukoSonoda]

Harassment is never a good thing. However the degree of it being indicated by the OP is raising a lot of questions in my mind in regard to context or the actual cause of it because can't really picture harassment to that degree being unprovoked unless you happen to be a very well known streamer or vtuber that has been playing this game on stream.

[LittleImp]

my blacklist has become full and i'm having issues dealing with a few people in game

harassment is normal targeted at my mental health (please note that i do suffer from bpd and pdd)...

but i still face harassment almost daily
from fc leaders power tripping and trying to abuse my empathy
to flat out verbal abuse telling me to kms in some instances

I'm going to be completely honest, it sounds like your mental illness is probably warping your perspective of otherwise mundane interactions and possibly making you paranoid. It's also very likely that it's causing you to behave in a way that in turn causes others to treat you a certain way. Managing to fill an entire 200 slot blacklist with actual, genuine 'harassers' just isn't really plausible.

Assuming you are already receiving help, I would highly recommending bringing these interactions and feelings up to your therapist.