help dealing with harassment

[Sphera]

resolved tho thread is derailed

[AziraSyuren]

This game's modding staff is pretty infamously bad at dealing with harassment. Unfortunately, your best option is usually to move DCs outright if reporting doesn't help.

There also exist mods that allow you to quite literally delete players from existence (client-side) so you never have to see them again, but I'm not sure if I'm allowed to link those. They also can't do anything about someone joining a PF group you're in.

[Sphera]

ty for your reply so quickly
yea i'm aware about mods but am scared due to tos about using them,
its also really sad to see that people feel the same way I do about the gm team in part,(that they don't do enough about harassment at least)
i might end up moving to another data centre then providing that I still want to play down side is i have a house and that's going to take an age to get back if i move.
i kind of wish there was a better way to deal with this.

[SturmChurro]

I don't have any context here, but I've never suffered harassment to the extent where I would think about switching datacenters. Well, I should say, I haven't been on the receiving end of actual harassment ever in this game. If fc leaders are a problem: just don't join an FC, and if you don't want to move datacenters due to the loss of a house? Then don't. Ignore them, to the best of your abilities; don't interact in any way. I'm not in an FC myself, but I know there are players who create their own, and are the only player actually in it. I'm also the kind of person that doesn't take things said like that to heart though, it may be more difficult for other players. If other players are the problem just don't interact with them. Not to say it's good to play an MMO solo, but sometimes it's best to just enjoy the experience as it is, and ignore the social aspect if all it is doing is causing one stress.

[NanaWiloh]

Sorry to hear about your troubles. If you decide to DC transfer I have a FC here on Primal:lamia Solis Occasum you are welcome to join if you wish. We were in a rather dead period though with myself,co-lead and wife being the only ones who really play. We also have a sister FC run by some in-game friends called Purrradise their a little more active then we are. You won't be mistreated in either FC, as we are all odd in our own way. I won't ask you to believe this but; You won't find Leadership abuse in either my FC or my friends we have zero tolerance for it. That said I wish you the best of luck in whatever choice you make and hope you find some peace.

[Sphera]

thank you all for your kind words, i did move dc and just removed my house, ill try again in end walker for a new one i guess
sorry that i didn't move to lamia tho i do appreciate the offer, for me the ping would have been far to high to play bard on
hopefully these issues that i have been facing stop now

[KageTokage]

In all honesty, I feel like allowing those people to chase you off of the DC is like letting them win. Also, if they were resorting to alt accounts for harassment there's no guarantees it'll even stop them if they were already that doggedly persistent.

I can't speak for just how awful they were being, but I feel like leaving do-not-disturb mode on and conducting conversations with friends through Discord or some other medium might've been a better move.

[AlyaNimfa]

Come to faerie we’re all cuddly here!

[Naoki34]

my blacklist is full... - manage undesirables players...

When it's full, you remove the ones at the top of your list, the recent ones are at the bottom of the list.

It's a shame about the limitation of the number of possible BL, but it allows -to send "tourists" to learn how to play during 200 Blacklist-.

And I keep my favourite undesirables ad aeternam at the top of the list.


You also have the /busy option to not be /tell. You can still argue about anything that isn't /tell.

And you should also reconsider your perception of these unwanted characters. The Internet is a zoo, you should not take care the opinions of strangers who behave like animals.
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As far as harassment is concerned, there is unfortunately only the chat that is managed, the can be total idiots without saying anything, they will never be banned.

If it happens in the chat, you can copy and paste (ctrl-C, ctrl-V), and say the time and the name of the channel, etc. That's why it's useful to display the irl time in your chat.

[LianaThorne]

You're not going to get any help from Square. They have the mentality that everyone can work out all of their problems in a civil manner and offer barely any protection for those who are actually being harmed by others. They care about the attacker's feelings too.