You can move to another server through the Mogstation, and yes it costs money.

You should not change servers without doing careful research first though.

First, all servers in the same datacentre share queues for dutyfinder - so they will all have the same waittimes.
The datacenter you are in - Aether - does have a reputation has being raid-heavy. Never played there myself, so I don't know how true that reputation is. But my point is that if you have long queues there, you are likely to have long queues elsewhere too.

What timezone are you in? You are typically best off picking a datacentre that matches your timezone.
Do you have all languages selected in DF? That can make a big difference in some cases.


It is also worth noting that the game as a whole is in a bit of a slow period right now, with many people having finished old content and are now just waiting for the new expansion.
This is probably extra true on Aether due to them having many hardcore raiders. That all the servers in Aether currently being locked for new characters also means there is no influx of new people right now.